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A lot of people, myself included, have said and heard things like, "I can't imagine my life without you in it," after a long relationship ends. In most cases, any continued contact is because people miss the emotional bond they had with someone, and miss having someone who knows them well, whom they know well, too. They miss having someone they don't have to explain things to from scratch, who knows their family, knows the things they've been through in life, knows their flaws and loves them anyway. They miss the company, and having a companion to do things with. In short, they miss the "friend" part of "boyfriend" or "girlfriend."
But your ex? Well, he's behaving like a narcissist who has lost his audience and is none too happy about it. I can tell by his nasty reaction to your taking him off your FB. Now that he doesn't have anyone there to listen to him talk about his day, his job, his life, etc., he's going to "love bomb" you and pay you all kinds of homage in order to try to get you to fill that role again, even if it means feigning interest in your day, your job, your life, etc.
Thing is, you can be assured that when he finds someone else to listen to him and be his audience (and he's probably out there actively looking for his next victim), he will disappear from your world. That's how narcissism works, and I oughta know, because my most recent ex has a huge streak of it.
Do yourself a favor, and cut contact with him. He broke up with you. He is no longer entitled to the details of your life. But also, it's pretty dang egotistical of him to think that you'd find his life so interesting as to want to know the details of it after he broke up with you.
Thank you lilac110! Many have told me just to be friends but I think it is a bad idea
You're welcome!
Hey, if you think it's a bad idea, that's all you need to know. You don't owe anyone any explanations or justification. If your friends or family ask, just tell them that interacting with him doesn't make you happy. People who love you and care about your well-being will understand and be supportive.
He's immature and mean spirited (based on his response on cutting him off from FB). It's a case of dumper's remorse. He jumped overboard, now you should cut the lifeline.
By the way, don't be surprised if he gets involved with someone new very quickly and makes a big public show of it, especially if you don't cater to his need for attention. That's what my ex is doing. (And it's funny because most of his girlfriends were pretty to gorgeous--the one before me was exquisite--and this one is short, dumpy, low-rent Queens. I'm actually disappointed in him.) He may even want to tell you alllll about the new person, you know, because you're "friends" now. Take such displays for what they are worth: An attempt to salvage his pride and bolster his ego.
OP: If you were my daughter, I'd say dump him. I agree. There is something kind of weird there.
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