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I'm 22, currently taking a master's degree, never had a girlfriend. I had a crush on a girl for the first time about 2 months ago and now I notice girls a lot.
I can't be with someone for several reasons - my temper issues, upbringing, lack of time, avoiding stress, etc - so how do I go back to being who I was? A low profile dedicated student and athlete.
I'm 22, currently taking a master's degree, never had a girlfriend. I had a crush on a girl for the first time about 2 months ago and now I notice girls a lot.
I can't be with someone for several reasons - my temper issues, upbringing, lack of time, avoiding stress, etc - so how I go back to being who I was? A low profile dedicated student and athlete.
Thank you in advance.
See your campus counseling center to deal with your temper and upbringing issues. Consider it to be an investment in your own future. This is the only time in your life that you'll have access to FREE counseling. Once you're out of school, you'll have to pay $150/hr. for qualified counseling.
See your campus counseling center to deal with your temper and upbringing issues. Consider it to be an investment in your own future. This is the only time in your life that you'll have access to FREE counseling. Once you're out of school, you'll have to pay $150/hr. for qualified counseling.
Counselling only helps superficial issues. Deep down, nobody ever changes. The good thing is that if you know it, you can avoid the problems that come with those issues.
Counselling only helps superficial issues. Deep down, nobody ever changes. The good thing is that if you know it, you can avoid the problems that come with those issues.
But thank you.
Not true at all.
You need some serious introspection, though right now might not be the time for it.
It is NATURAL to notice and be attracted to girls. This is the way you were made.
Just accept that it's normal and use your self-discipline to refocus on your studies and workouts when you find yourself daydreaming.
Counselling only helps superficial issues. Deep down, nobody ever changes. The good thing is that if you know it, you can avoid the problems that come with those issues.
But thank you.
A man with issues who thinks therapy is a crock...how original.
If you have deep seeded issues that come from your upbringing, you're naive to think they wont manifest themselves in negative ways in your relationships.
There is no avoidance technique that is effective.
Take it from a female, getting her masters, with anger issues and complicated upbringing.
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I'm 22, currently taking a master's degree, never had a girlfriend. I had a crush on a girl for the first time about 2 months ago and now I notice girls a lot.
I can't be with someone for several reasons - my temper issues, upbringing, lack of time, avoiding stress, etc - so how do I go back to being who I was? A low profile dedicated student and athlete.
Thank you in advance.
Stay busy. If you have a FT job in addition to getting a Master's degree and a couple of other hobbies, you won't have time to think about women seriously.
Counselling only helps superficial issues. Deep down, nobody ever changes. The good thing is that if you know it, you can avoid the problems that come with those issues.
But thank you.
Hmmm. No one changes. You can't change. But you admit that you opened yourself up to the possibility of being with a woman for the first time just recently. That doesn't count as change?
How sad that young men like you (and there are a lot of them here on C-D) have already made decisions about their lifetime limitations at the tender age of their early 20s. It is not just sad, but also sort of bizarre and arrogant to be so sure about things when you are still almost a child with almost zero life experience.
I'm 22, currently taking a master's degree, never had a girlfriend. I had a crush on a girl for the first time about 2 months ago and now I notice girls a lot.
I can't be with someone for several reasons - my temper issues, upbringing, lack of time, avoiding stress, etc - so how do I go back to being who I was? A low profile dedicated student and athlete.
Thank you in advance.
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back in time.
3.) Destroy time machine.
4.) Find yourself from that time.
5.) Kill him and assume his identity. (That second part should be easy.)
Simple answer is: you can't. You can only move forward from here. If you have temper issues, it's time to work on them. If you want to avoid stress, then avoid it. If you want to keep a low profile, then keep your profile low. You can keep doing much of what you have been doing.
But you can't go back to not noticing girls. The toothpaste is out of the tube...so to speak.
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