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I think a coffee date is great for a first date or a first meet if you are doing online dating.
As Tabula Rose said in her post above all those things apply.
If you choose a book shop that has coffee even better because they have limited food choices so you could get a snack as well if you want.
I've heard some people argue that coffee dates are cheap and many women will refuse them as they see it as someone not as interested or committed in the person.
I think coffee dates are excellent for first time offline meetings as they are low-key, inexpensive of course and also can be quick. In online dating, I consider the first offline date more of a screening than a real date which for me is date #2.
I think there's a difference between a first meet and a first date. First meets are short and cheap, and to get an idea of chemistry and see if you both want to go on a date. I think coffee is a good first meet idea.
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They're fine for a weekend first meet... other than that? No. Lets just get a drink. I'm not drinking coffee at night (or after noon) so when that is suggested its always awkward. I can go and get a juice or something, but I always get questioned about it (you don't like coffee?!?!)... blah.
Also, I don't want to get up in the middle of a date to go poop.
I've heard some people argue that coffee dates are cheap and many women will refuse them as they see it as someone not as interested or committed in the person.
I think coffee dates are excellent for first time offline meetings as they are low-key, inexpensive of course and also can be quick. In online dating, I consider the first offline date more of a screening than a real date which for me is date #2.
I think meeting someone for coffee is fine for a first date, but I wonder about some of your reasoning.
In particular, I wonder what you mean by "and also can be quick." Do you mean that of you meet someone and don't like the looks of them, you can bring the meeting to an abrupt halt? That's not really fair. You don't have to commit to a lifetime with someone on your first date, but you should at least commit to an evening with them. Treat it like a real first date, not like a "screening."
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Decaf coffee is like non alcoholic beer, there is just no damn point.
I'll do coffee dates, but few people want to meet socially at 7am.
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Treat it like a real first date, not like a "screening."
If it is from OLD, that's what a first "date" is... a screening to see if you want to go on a date with the person.
Especially now that summer is here I don't understand why people just don't meet up for a pint... but hey, I want to know if the potential date is a "gluten free" extremist (no thank you) or whatever.
I've heard some people argue that coffee dates are cheap and many women will refuse them as they see it as someone not as interested or committed in the person.
I think coffee dates are excellent for first time offline meetings as they are low-key, inexpensive of course and also can be quick. In online dating, I consider the first offline date more of a screening than a real date which for me is date #2.
"Not interested or committed in the person"??! How can you be committed to someone you don't know? The purpose of the coffee date is to see if both parties are interested in exploring further.
"coffee" is an excuse and wimps way out in my humble opinion. If you have corresponded enough to know there is enough interest to meet in person, then do something a little more then just having coffee. Take her to dinner, get some wine down her and see what kind of person she really is. Coffee on a Tuesday afternoon and 2:12pm in the afternoon is not going to show you that. Lots of times dates over "coffee", versus dinner and wine, end up being one and done because both people are more reserved and do not open up the same as they would for an evening date, over dinner with a drink or two.
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