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It IS odd. He seems more concerned with his concept of what is "fair." He feels it isn't fair if he moves to her location, where she owns real estate and makes good money. He seems quite willing to move other places though.
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You are seriously considering a job that would significantly increase the distance between you and her. How can she read that as anything other than a lack of long-term commitment to her?
Because he says it's a short-term move. One that will enable him to pretty much choose his location afterwards.
Maybe you can just fly back and forth then it doesn't matter if you live 250 or 500 miles away. Obviously this will only work if your new position is temporary. She is settled, you are not, she buys you gifts, and you need to be in control. Something is going to break and soon.
Maybe you can just fly back and forth then it doesn't matter if you live 250 or 500 miles away. Obviously this will only work if your new position is temporary. She is settled, you are not, she buys you gifts, and you need to be in control. Something is going to break and soon.
Just wish I could find a job there. That's the only obstacle. I kept doing the google maps and this job would only add 127 extra miles distance. I just don't see that as a deal breaker, but she does. It is pretty much over now.
I can't blame you for not wanting to give up a government job. Government jobs are pretty cush and low-risk compared to private-sector jobs.
How old are both of you?
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Maybe you can just fly back and forth then it doesn't matter if you live 250 or 500 miles away. Obviously this will only work if your new position is temporary. She is settled, you are not, she buys you gifts, and you need to be in control. Something is going to break and soon.
Really. If she's making a good six figures and he's not coughing up hundreds of dollars a month for a health insurance premium, just set up a standing search on Kayak or something and get used to going through security checkpoints. It's not that difficult.
Young man life is full of taking risks and chances. I'm very cautious about recommending marriage to anyone as so many go south. However, a good loving wife is worth far more than any job. A good woman is hard to find. There's a line is a song, Once you have found her, never let her go. If you really want this woman, looks like you'll have to take the risk and move to where she is. If she makes the good money and you're income is a lot worse, then the smart thing to do is let her keep her job and you move. Personally, I've been there. My wife has been making more than me now for almost 20 years. Doesn't matter in our relationship at all. SHe never holds that over my head and totally respects me as her husband and the head of the family. Good luck.
She is nuts about me, constantly talking to her friends and family about me. I have a strong love for her too
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marriage would certainly make life a lot easier.
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I like to be in control,
The above is all I had to read to know this is not going to end well.
One word: narcissism.
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