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: ) If this question EVER comes up - its a huge red flag.
It is a sign of insecurity, possessiveness and passive aggressive tendancies. All things that create an unhealthy relationship based on fear and lack of trust.
If I gave a suggestion without an explanation lets hope they try it - not suddenly feel as if I were hiding a deep dark secret about someone I knew in my past...sheesh.
If you are feeling for some reason, that someone's past is an issue, you really have to keep it to yourself. Address your own insecurity and come to terms with the fact that if you aren't willing to marry someone and have them "all to yourself", then what business do you have questioning their past? Surely you have one yourself, and the older you get the more likely it is that your partners have a longer and more 'interesting' past, and so will you.
Those are the kinds of feelings and reactions that create mistrust in a relationship and destabilize any hope of romantic intimacy.
GREAT post, especially the bolded!!
If they've chosen to be with you, how does it matter what they did in the past when they freely choose to be with you in the present and future? And amazingly, even if they'd had "better" (what does that even mean?) sex with someone else, it obviously isn't the be-all, end-all if they're not with that person any longer.
Truth is you will never know if you are the "best she's ever had", but realistically you shouldn't even care.
Yes, and I understand your quarterly evaluation system is highly rated by HR professionals everywhere. If gives your partner a fair and honest review, comparative assessment, and helps identify any areas where he should be seeking improvement. I applaud your precision.
We Germans are very organized. My system leaves no questions open
I am almost 48 and no man has asked me this.... ever. Of course, I dated men who tend to be a tad smarter and emotionally balanced.
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I am almost 48 and no man has asked me this.... ever. Of course, I dated men who tend to be a tad smarter and emotionally balanced.
Again, Ms. OP basher, if you read the follow up posts, I NEVER ASKED this question. It was presented to me over pillow talk one night. And again, Ms. selective reader, the question was not whether to ask a woman this, it was whether, if known or not, would it bother you as a man. Get it?
Again, Ms. OP basher, if you read the follow up posts, I NEVER ASKED this question. It was presented to me over pillow talk one night. And again, Ms. selective reader, the question was not whether to ask a woman this, it was whether, if known or not, would it bother you as a man. Get it?
That is Mrs. OP Basher to you.
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Again, Ms. OP basher, if you read the follow up posts, I NEVER ASKED this question. It was presented to me over pillow talk one night. And again, Ms. selective reader, the question was not whether to ask a woman this, it was whether, if known or not, would it bother you as a man. Get it?
Then why in your original post does it say the following?
So you ask her, having had sex with her, say, a dozen times or so at this point, where you rank....She is brutally honest and tells you about a few men who were far superior in bed.
In your own words, you ask her.
Here's a question for you. If you married a woman who had been married before, would it bother you as a husband? Would you be curious how you compare and whether she thinks you're a better husband than her ex? Do you worry that she'll look at other men and wonder if they'd make a better husband than you?
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