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Originally Posted by ocnjgirl
The "sources" are the various forums where guys who aren't successful with girls go to vent to each other. They tell each other that we like bad boys for sex, but when we're older and want someone to pay the bills and boss around, then we trap some poor unknowing sap "nice guy" into marrying us and supporting our lifestyle of eating bon-bons on the couch while dreaming of bad boys. If they want to avoid such a fate, they are told to "be jerks" and then we will fall over ourselves to have sex with them. They all seem to believe it.
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I agree with this.
I have no luck with guys. But I don't go around saying "All men like bad/slutty girls." It's just ignorance, and jealousy comments.
Different people like different things.
1. Some girls like bad boys for hot flings and fun.
2. Some got with a guy that seemed nice, but turned into a jerk later.
3. Some girls don't give bad boys a thought, and want sweet ones.
4. Some girls like the alpha male types
etc.
It depends on the woman in question. And in some cases, people get bad boy and alpha male mixed up.
Going back on all guys liking slutty women. They don't. Some guys like sluts just to sleep with. And some want to "tame" them. Then there's other guys that won't give a slutty woman a chance, and want a conservative nice woman. Or some that settle down with a nice woman after they've slept with and had their fun with the bad ones. It boils down to the taste of the individual. Gender has nothing to do with it. Guys like confident girls, or girls they can easily start and hold conversation with, and have a good time.
Women liking an alpha male, not a bad boy, as some confused that. An alpha males isn't always a bad boy. But bad boys tend to have the qualities of an alpha male.
Me as an example. I want a confident guy. 1 that knows who he is, what he wants, and doesn't let people intimidate and push him around. I want a stand-up man. An alpha males. Not an jerk, or bad boy.
So, to be blunt, I don't want, and am not attracted to, a wuss / pushover.
I could be friends with a shy or mousy guy. But dating wise it's not attractive. I could like him, but he'd be friend zoned first while I got to know him--maybe I could like him later.
It's not the jerks they like. It's the swagger and charisma, and that they seem the stand-up protector type. Not all men like this are *jerks, but the qualities are just often found alot in jerks as well, and some women settle for the jerks, hoping they'll change, and if so, they'll be a perfect guy.
So women don't like guys to treat them like crap, if that's one thing you wonder.
I want a guy that is respectful, and sweet, not weak or shy and mousy. There's a difference between them. lol
Like the guy I have a crush on now. In a series I read. He seems like an *******, but he has a softer side, just a bit socially inept. lol And with women, he's a perfect gentleman. He knows how to treat a lady, and be respectful, and his student learned to be respectful to women under his tutelage . He has many lovers, being a traveling soldier. But cares for, and respects, the lovers he has. Hell, his last girlfriend was a hooker. And he said she was a good woman.
And lots of girls, that follow the series, like this guy, as in addition to being a nice gentleman with the ladies, he's not a push over or a wuss. Quite the opposite. You don't mess with him.
So, alpha male is the idea. Bad boy is not. This is where I am. I don't want a bum, gangster, or trouble-maker. I want a confident, take charge man, but who is respectful and you can build something with.
Now the girls that actually do like bad boys just want them for sex. A passionate fling, but nothing serious.
And some just settle for it if the guy is hot, and they have no self respect. As is the case of a girl I know that stays with a guy that just uses her. She complains alot, but still hasn't left after a year of being his side chick. And he wanted her to come to his house, and take her pants off for him and his friends. She got very offended, telling him she wasn't a ****, and will not take her pants off for random men. But the sex is great, and apparently, he's hot. So, she sticks around hoping he'll treat her better, and it doesn't seem like it's going to happen.
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