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Seeing a lot of threads about guys wanting girls to pay, but I'm curious about the guy not offering to pay. If you're dating a guy who makes just as much if not more than you, but every time you go out to dinner or lunch, he always has it split, does this say that he doesn't intend to be your bf? I don't mind splitting, but if he does it every time, I'm going to think he doesn't see long term potential. Maybe it depends on the person. I have had platonic guy friends who didn't want anything sexual from me not mind paying.
Seeing a lot of threads about guys wanting girls to pay, but I'm curious about the guy not offering to pay. If you're dating a guy who makes just as much if not more than you, but every time you go out to dinner or lunch, he always has it split, does this say that he doesn't intend to be your bf? I don't mind splitting, but if he does it every time, I'm going to think he doesn't see long term potential. Maybe it depends on the person. I have had platonic guy friends who didn't want anything sexual from me not mind paying.
I think it depends a little bit on the guy and his upbringing.
But I haven't ever dated anyone who didn't sincerely want to pay in some cases.
It's awkward in my 20's it screamed disinterested.In my 30's it screams broke or cheap. But now that I have a son I don't want some chick living off my son. So yes women should offer and when it's more dates treat him too.
It's awkward in my 20's it screamed disinterested.In my 30's it screams broke or cheap. But now that I have a son I don't want some chick living off my son. So yes women should offer and when it's more dates treat him too.
Amazing how things change when you look at it from a man's perspective.
Some women will never get what they want simply because they are too self centered to look at things from a different perspective.
I had 2 women in my life pay for a 1st date. I pulled out my debit card...but they fought me until I gave in.
Nothing serious ever developed from these two....but I respected them so much more because they valued my company enough to pay for a $30 meal.
I've never had this happen to me (a guy insisting we always split). The guys almost always insist on paying. I have had a few first dates where we go dutch and one first date where I paid the whole bill. All of those times there never was a second date. With the dates men paid for, I was almost always called for a second date. From this, I get the impression if a man wants a second date, he tries his best to pay. If he doesn't want to see me again, he cuts his losses by splitting the tab and going. But no man ever insisted I pay... and I always offer to split. It's if the man agrees to splitting or not.
Honestly? If he never offers, I'll consider him "just an acquaintance." Someone I don't bother to dress up for. Someone to go to catch a cheap movie and have a burger with, then ciao till another day for a cheap movie and a burger.
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Originally Posted by GKelly
Seeing a lot of threads about guys wanting girls to pay, but I'm curious about the guy not offering to pay. If you're dating a guy who makes just as much if not more than you, but every time you go out to dinner or lunch, he always has it split, does this say that he doesn't intend to be your bf? I don't mind splitting, but if he does it every time, I'm going to think he doesn't see long term potential. Maybe it depends on the person. I have had platonic guy friends who didn't want anything sexual from me not mind paying.
Any smart woman dating today would offer to go dutch when the bill arrives, unless she likes taking money from complete strangers.
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