Going too fast and have the relationship burn out

[CarbonCountyLiving]

Originally Posted by timberline742

When it rains, it pours

Where were you three weeks ago!

Haha!!

By the way, I think based on last night and the fact that the date is still going on, that my notion is out the window anyway.

[Huckleberry3911948]

trying to find our wholeness in another human is futile. relationships are bad fillers to fill that hole.
here are the bad fillers, boys, drugs, booze, food
here are the good fillers art, music, exercise , gardening and cats

[dadidaduda]

I agree, nothing ventured nothing gained. You can artificially control your relationship and hold back, but then you miss out of the highest drug nature has created for us.

I personally just "re-emerged" from a head dive and finding myself in a mundane situation, involving routines, his kid, his work and other real life issues. I feel we've both cooled off and at this point it's just up to us to decide if we are really meant to live together and have a family etc or is it time to move on.
So far his presence in my life is much better than absence, so I'm not going to let go off him just yet I'm hoping the hot madness can come back in the right setting sometime again. For that... I'm willing to sit through play dates, cook dinners and a lot more)).. for as long as he treats me as his best friend of course.

I think we just have to realize that nothing as intense as the immediate chemistry rush is either common or long-lived. So it's best to take it for what it is - amazing temporary experience.

[skywalker2014]

There is no "correct" way to develop a relationship...usually rushing into things it's a recipe for disaster.

However taking things so slow it's not good either.

Live your day by day...and talk about it...a relationship is to get to know each other.

[lordvader44]

Now one can be perfect in this regard so if you had to err on the side of something I would pick fast. Men loose more women by going too slow than too fast.