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I knew people there but was choosing to sit quietly by myself.
A guy introduced himself.
He was quite badly dressed, a 20 year old sweatshirt all faded, rumpled pants. Clean but not groomed. Age about 55.
He took a shine to me and started chatting away. I chatted back. This is all outdoors btw, nice grassed area, lots of room.
When we went back inside, he began talking to me again. I was listening to the band, but this guy just kept teasing me about my accent (a pet hate) and leaning in to my space.
I actually asked him to step back and he said "it takes all sorts to make a world, I'm a sociable guy" and not only STAYED in my personal space, he also touched me.
I flinched back and said "don't" and he's all "what's the matter with you? I'm just being friendly. I'm a sociable guy".
So I end up being the bad guy, like I'm being unreasonable NOT to want to be touched or hear the same "you come from overseas" stuff, honestly, wtf? How many times do you think I've heard the exact same lines?
Thoughts? How would you have handled it? I left. Kinda ruined my night.
Come across manipulative and rude people like that a lot. It is very annoying.
If he was making you feel uncomfortable I don't blame you for being stand offish. You weren't the bad guy at all. He was just trying to get you to do what he wants by making you feel that way.
i think you could have gone to the club management, or said rather loudly something like, if you dont stop touching me i am going to have you thrown out of here.
in the end you were not the bad guy, he was, dont ever change. there are some of us guys that do tend to touch a little more than we should, and we have to recognize that and honor your personal space.
as for your accent, no matter what it is, i love it. i have worked with and dated people that have accents from around the world and i have yet to find one i dont like.
My goodness, the bartenders must crush up Viagra and put it in the mens' drinks at these pubs you frequent...bunch of horn dogs,lol. Seriously though, a "buzz off creep" sounds appropriate after the first warning.
Sounds like the guy was drunk to me ?? You did nothing wrong. If anything maybe too nice.
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