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I have had plenty of hookups and I'm no longer interested in having sex right away. I'm getting closer to 30 and I really want a long term relationship now, as I want to have a family within the next 10 years. I don't want to have sex until I am for sure that the guy is reciprocating the same feelings. As soon as I tell a guy that although I am looking for an ltr, I don't want to have sex until it the time is right, they run for the hills. Am I doing anything wrong?
I wonder which is throwing them off -- the LTR or the no-sex. Also, how are you telling them this information? Right at first meeting? I think what you want is fine and you should not change your mind to find a guy. If they run for the hills, it is their loss, not yours. But consider how you are relaying the information. Maybe that's what is throwing them off. Or you may have just not found the right guy yet. Don't be discouraged though.
Obviously not on the first date. But I would like to wait at least a month or 2 and about 5 or do dates. Sex is an emotional experience for me.
Eh, 2 months is going to be difficult for a lot of guys. What if it was more than 5 dates (maybe 10)? Either way, most men are going to have trouble waiting. Unless you find a man who is in the same boat and understands-this man is probably going to be older than you.
I wonder which is throwing them off -- the LTR or the no-sex. Also, how are you telling them this information? Right at first meeting? I think what you want is fine and you should not change your mind to find a guy. If they run for the hills, it is their loss, not yours. But consider how you are relaying the information. Maybe that's what is throwing them off. Or you may have just not found the right guy yet. Don't be discouraged though.
I only date guys that want ltr's. I don't directly imply that I am not interested in anything physical unless they ask. It's usually me declining an offer to spend the night or something along those lines
Eh, 2 months is going to be difficult for a lot of guys. What if it was more than 5 dates (maybe 10)? Either way, most men are going to have trouble waiting. Unless you find a man who is in the same boat and understands-this man is probably going to be older than you.
I just can't wrap my head around sleeping with a guy and not know where things are going.
I just can't wrap my head around sleeping with a guy and not know where things are going.
I understand that concern. Would you be willing to date a man who is maybe 10 years older than you-you might have an easier time with a man understanding. 30-some single men-going to be a hard sell.
I'm not interested in dating anyone 10 years older than me. Preferably in the age range of 30-35. Too close to 40 is weird, as my dad is 43!
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