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We do ourselves such a disservice when we are determined to feel rejected just because someone didn't feel the same level of attraction for us we did for them
For years, I loved my exSO. But, I too, looked the other way on more than one occasion. (he got angry over little things often - like traffic.)
I loved him as much as I ever could love another person, but deep inside me I wondered if he would stick around if I ever got sick or was in a car accident. I didn't think he would. I even told him that if that ever happened to me, I would leave so that I wouldn't burden him.
As it turned out, the relationship ended when he cheated. Does his cheating count as him ending the relationship or does me leaving count as me ending the relationship. Doesn't matter, but the OP question asks if * I * ended it. I guess you could call it a "mutual ending". * shrugging *
I would say yes. He seemed like a wonderful man and we seemed to be doing very well together. I told him about one of my medical issues and it didn't seem to be something he could handle.
All of a sudden he was putting off seeing me for the stupidest reasons so I went ahead and broke up with him. I think he may have been too nice to do it on his own.
That is all the better because I found a wonderful man who is the best and we do very well together. When I think of the other one, I felt like I was falling in love with him but sitting here across from my fiance', I see myself with my fiance' until forever.
When I picture my ex and I like that, it just doesn't work.
Maybe he was more of what I wanted him to be instead of what he actually was.
I would say yes. He seemed like a wonderful man and we seemed to be doing very well together. I told him about one of my medical issues and it didn't seem to be something he could handle.
All of a sudden he was putting off seeing me for the stupidest reasons so I went ahead and broke up with him. I think he may have been too nice to do it on his own.
That is all the better because I found a wonderful man who is the best and we do very well together. When I think of the other one, I felt like I was falling in love with him but sitting here across from my fiance', I see myself with my fiance' until forever.
When I picture my ex and I like that, it just doesn't work.
Maybe he was more of what I wanted him to be instead of what he actually was.
I think it is common to experience this with relationships. Especially when we are younger and have less experience. It is really easy to miss some of the cautionary signs and see only what we want to see or project upon someone else what we want them to be instead of what they actually are.
Good thing you saw it when you did and now you're better off for it.
He was the sweetest guy ever, completely adorable, and we got along SO well. However, we just didn't have that "spark". I felt bad because he had it for me, but I just didn't see it going anywhere.
It was a legitimate "It's not you, it's me!" breakup.
He's still someone I consider a friend. I met up with him for dinner about a year back and there were clearly no hard feelings.
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