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Has anyone on this site ever ended a fairly healthy, loving, good relationship because while you loved the other person, you had real doubts that they were a viable, long term partner? In other words, the overall relationship is solid and you both love one another, but one has doubts that the other is the one you want to spend your life with?
Because it was a loving, healthy relationship, did you wait to see how it would go and perhaps let it run its course until maybe it had a 'natural ending' or did you end it upfront, so as not to hurt the other person (who definitely is marriage minded) even more?
I'm not saying one should end a relationship because the other's not your soul mate (not really sure I believe in that) but that while you do love and care for the other person and enjoy their company, you don't think they're the one you want to marry and spend your life with. Hope that makes sense.
He is now a father of 4 with a good job. We had an incredible connection, but I did not think we would work long term.
When I ended it, he accused me of going for the "white picket fence," and that may have been true at the time. But he ended up doing the same thing. LOL
I swallowed a lot of things while living with my ex. We rarely fought, as we are both people who swallow problems instead of confrontation.
Most people thought we had a good relationship, but it didn't feel that way to me on the inside.
Did I end a relationship with someone I could have lived with till I died? Yes. She was lazy and I had been urging her to find work. I felt she would never lose weight, never find work, never do anything. So while we got along, I felt it better to end it while we could still be friends, since we have children.
I had to end a relationship when I learned my partner was still married. It was a huge disappointment because this person and I had something wonderful growing. I almost stayed with her anyway, but knew I couldn't respect myself if I did. She told me she was divorced, but that really meant "going through a divorce." How healthy is a relationship that starts from a false pretense? I don't know. It certainly felt healthy enough. But if she lied about that I had to wonder what else was she willing to lie about.
Has anyone on this site ever ended a fairly healthy, loving, good relationship because while you loved the other person, you had real doubts that they were a viable, long term partner? In other words, the overall relationship is solid and you both love one another, but one has doubts that the other is the one you want to spend your life with?
Because it was a loving, healthy relationship, did you wait to see how it would go and perhaps let it run its course until maybe it had a 'natural ending' or did you end it upfront, so as not to hurt the other person (who definitely is marriage minded) even more?
I'm not saying one should end a relationship because the other's not your soul mate (not really sure I believe in that) but that while you do love and care for the other person and enjoy their company, you don't think they're the one you want to marry and spend your life with. Hope that makes sense.
I had to do this, twice. And it can be so gut wrenching, for both parties
But when you know in your gut the person, no matter how nice, how wonderful, how special is not the one for you - you are selfishly wasting his/her time if you don't make the break sooner rather than later.
I did it with two people. My (2) biggest regrets dating. I even went back and tried to fix both of them, but it was too little too late. I'd be happy with either one of them today. Oh well, I learned the error of my ways for sure on those two.
Has anyone on this site ever ended a fairly healthy, loving, good relationship because while you loved the other person, you had real doubts that they were a viable, long term partner? In other words, the overall relationship is solid and you both love one another, but one has doubts that the other is the one you want to spend your life with?
Because it was a loving, healthy relationship, did you wait to see how it would go and perhaps let it run its course until maybe it had a 'natural ending' or did you end it upfront, so as not to hurt the other person (who definitely is marriage minded) even more?
I'm not saying one should end a relationship because the other's not your soul mate (not really sure I believe in that) but that while you do love and care for the other person and enjoy their company, you don't think they're the one you want to marry and spend your life with. Hope that makes sense.
i dont end relationships, my ladies do because they want to move on.
I had to do this, twice. And it can be so gut wrenching, for both parties
But when you know in your gut the person, no matter how nice, how wonderful, how special is not the one for you - you are selfishly wasting his/her time if you don't make the break sooner rather than later.
Good luck with that.
I wish more people would nad up and realize that.
LIKE MY EX.
But I'm not bitter...
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