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My SO and I bought our place together, but had only one of us done it for sure the other would have paid rent or otherwise contributed to the household finances. Moving in together means sharing a home together, and sharing a home comes with certain financial obligations to keep that home going.
Further down the road if a couple wants to take the next step (with or without marriage), you can always put the other person on the deed. That eliminates the feeling of "contributing towards someone else's investment" though really, aren't you doing that if you rent from a random landlord anyway? You need to live somewhere and very few people will house you for free.
I think it's a no brainer if you live together you should share expenses. It gets tricky though because if a guy moves in w/ OP, then he is helping her make an investment he will likely never see a return on. You could look at it as well, he would be paying rent elsewhere and not getting an investment, so what does it matter, BUT I know I wouldn't personally live with a guy and help him buy a house I have no stake in when I could be paying for my own house. It's tricky.
I have my own house and I can't see any scenario where I would ever be okay putting a guy's name on the deed to my house even if we were getting married. I know that likely isn't fair to him, but it's just how I feel especially since I've seen what can happen in a divorce.
Yeah, that's a no brainer... but the question is, if you moved in with a woman who owned her house, would you pay rent (or I guess help her pay the mortgage).
Maybe. But I don't see myself living with a woman anytime soon.
If you are moving in with your g/f, even if it's a house he owns, then you should be paying your share. If you want your financial responsibilities to end when you move, then move back in with mommy and daddy. Doesn't matter if she is paying a mortgage or rent, if you are an adult you have to pay your living expenses no matter where you are. Personally, I think it's better to find a place together and move in together. When you move in with someone, then they have the upper hand...so at anytime, you may get uprooted. Hopefully it doesn't happen, but if it does, it would suck. I've always have moved to a neutral place with g/f's, even when I owned a house, I would just rent it, find "our" place together.
I wouldn't contribute to her mortgage payment unless we were married. Pick up all the utilities, perhaps (but I probably wouldn't even share a residence unless we were engaged). Space is undervalued in a relationship,
I don't believe in marriage, so a bf moving in with me is significant and as far a commitment as most of my relationships go--which is fine with me.
Oh okay I see. So do you currently own a home now? Or are you thinking about it and just seeing what it would be like from your boyfriend's point of view?
Oh okay I see. So do you currently own a home now? Or are you thinking about it and just seeing what it would be like from your boyfriend's point of view?
I currently own. Yes, was curious about a males perspective since I've gotten neg feedback from former bf's who didn't feel comfortable living in a home that wasn't there's and paying rent. AKA, they would rather stay in expensive or crappy living situations rather than move into a home owned by a women and paying her.
I don't believe in living together before marriage, so I have nothing to contribute, but my friend's boyfriend paid her rent. It was a source of a lot of conflict though. Huge, huge fights.
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