"I'm not looking for drama"- what does that mean when men say that? (singles, younger)
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I'll throw in my 2 cents. Obviously drama can come from men as well. IME though, I'll just say that I was very put off when women I dated would do things like create trivial fights out of thin air, seemingly out a of a sense of boredom. Do all women do this? Absolutely not. Do some men? I'm sure they do. It's just been my unfortunate experience to have this happen multiple times. Of course there are other experiences unique to my past relationships I could use to highlight "relationship" drama, but I'll just leave it at the one example. I'm sure some of the women here have had boyfriends or husbands pull the same stunt, but in my past relationships, and even watching my mom/dad, it was usually the women contriving fights.
I'll throw in my 2 cents. Obviously drama can come from men as well. IME though, I'll just say that I was very put off when women I dated would do things like create trivial fights out of thin air, seemingly out a of a sense of boredom. Do all women do this? Absolutely not. Do some men? I'm sure they do. It's just been my unfortunate experience to have this happen multiple times. Of course there are other experiences unique to my past relationships I could use to highlight "relationship" drama, but I'll just leave it at the one example. I'm sure some of the women here have had boyfriends or husbands pull the same stunt, but in my past relationships, and even watching my mom/dad, it was usually the women contriving fights.
And in my experience, it's the men. Why the difference? Maybe because I'm dating men and you're dating women, who knows? (speaking generally)
Anyway, I have no time nor inclination for drama from anyone, men or women. Friends or lovers. Get it far away from me.
Really? To me, it screams poor social skills. I'd avoid someone who wrote "No drama!" in their profile.
What a weird thing to add to a profile anyway. Like somehow it will spare them from actual drama. Imagine their shock and horror when drama inevitably appears.
Really? To me, it screams poor social skills. I'd avoid someone who wrote "No drama!" in their profile.
Well, I'm avoiding profiles in general so there's that.
Here's something interesting about profiles.
When I met my husband (he died last year, unexpectedly, so I'm single), his profile was a little strange. I mean, he didn't say all that much on it and all I could tell from his photo was that he had a normal enough shaped head and it looked like he had two arms and two legs and could walk. He said he was 47 and I figured I would know more about his age if we met.
I meanwhile had put all sorts of detail on my profile. I had thought long and hard about what to put on there. I kept my photos up to date, and included full body shots that were recent (not nekkid pictures - LOL - fully clothed). Anyway, so somehow or another we met online and decided quickly to meet in person. Not because we were so eager, but because both of us had learned that no matter how much you think you may like a person online, nothing beat meeting in person for either of us.
So we met and fell in love instantly and it was great. We got married the next year. Also great.
Years later I asked him what had attracted him to my profile and you know what he told me? "You had pretty eyes." That was it. In fact, his first message to me was simply that now that I think of it "You have pretty eyes." He didn't remember a single remark I had made in my profile! LOL
I don't have any drama that I know of - I mean, I do have grown kids and grandkids, but they are well behaved and they stay out of my business. I am not an emotionally mercurial person. My parents are deceased. I'm a happy, fulfilled, energetic person who is simply never bored. Sorry - some might find that boring but I like it and I like my life that way. Two other tortured souls can find each other and torture each other with minutia or belly button gazing or whatever but leave me out of it.
What a weird thing to add to a profile anyway. Like somehow it will spare them from actual drama. Imagine their shock and horror when drama inevitably appears.
I just met someone (we're not dating but still - I just met him and this conversation came up). He and I were both laughing about how neither of us wants ANY DRAMA!
I took it to mean that neither of us wants to argue and fight with anyone about stuff that ultimately doesn't mean much in the long run.
And if I ever end up with anyone, they better leave their baggage somewhere else or have already gone through it and unpacked it all (preferable).
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