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When men say they are not looking for drama, it means they want you to show them your garden of Eden with absolutely no expectations of them whatsoever.
If you ask:
Do you like movies?
Can we meet for a meal?
Do you work?
Do you have a car?
Do you have your own place?
How is your relationship with your family?
Do you like pets?
Can you help me tidy up?
How was your day today?
When men say they are not looking for drama, it means they want you to show them your garden of Eden with absolutely no expectations of them whatsoever.
If you ask:
Do you like movies?
Can we meet for a meal?
Do you work?
Do you have a car?
Do you have your own place?
How is your relationship with your family?
Do you like pets?
Can you help me tidy up?
How was your day today?
D.R.A.M.A.
Hilarious! I'm so glad H8 is still posting with us!
OK, it's a zombie thread. We may as well enjoy it.
I'll play: "not looking for drama" probably means, that this is a person who's been prone to picking high-maintenance or high-drama women, so he thinks by declaring zero tolerance for drama, that will take care of his subconscious self-defeating behavior. IOW: he's a walking red flag.
When men say they are not looking for drama, it means they want you to show them your garden of Eden with absolutely no expectations of them whatsoever.
If you ask:
Do you like movies?
Can we meet for a meal?
Do you work?
Do you have a car?
Do you have your own place?
How is your relationship with your family?
Do you like pets?
Can you help me tidy up?
How was your day today?
It means, "I'm going to be as dramatic as I can be, but don't you YOU dare inflict any drama on ME!"
I remember a narcissist I was dating declaring how he despised drama so much. This was after a disagreement where I stated a boundary/preference. He absolutely came unglued, and things were never the same after that. I really didn’t know as much about narcissism back then, so I had no idea what happened.
Anywhoo, when a man proclaims he “hates drama” off the bat, it brings up a negative connotation for me.
In fact, I don’t like a man stating in OLD profiles his negatives/what he doesn’t want/doesn’t like. It seems like a red flag. I’d prefer to read what he does like.
I remember a narcissist I was dating declaring how he despised drama so much. This was after a disagreement where I stated a boundary/preference. He absolutely came unglued, and things were never the same after that. I really didn’t know as much about narcissism back then, so I had no idea what happened.
Anywhoo, when a man proclaims he “hates drama” off the bat, it brings up a negative connotation for me.
In fact, I don’t like a man stating in OLD profiles his negatives/what he doesn’t want/doesn’t like. It seems like a red flag. I’d prefer to read what he does like.
Same here with the bolded. At best, I thought these men were selecting emotionally immature women (read = too young for them) and then being annoyed by the behaviors emotionally immature women are known for. Like, cognitive dissonance? But no, these guys are the drama creators living in complete denial, and will gaslight you right out of their lives.
I completely agree that listing negatives actually tells you more about them than anything else does. If a guy posts about how all his girlfriends are/were crazy, then I know he is a grade A donkey's rear. When they talk about how women have exploited them financially, they don't want a gold digger = broke, a miser, or both. And I'm the kinda gal who has no issues with a guy using coupons on a date!
"And any emotions you have or any expectations you have of me = drama"
LOL!!
"Oh. My God(ness)! You're questions make me THINK! I don't wanna THINK! Ohhh, I'm done with you! You're filled with too much drama!"
BTW fleetie...what kind of movies do YOU like?
If these guys don't like drama, then WHY DO THEY CAUSE IT?
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