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My girlfriend of 3 years wants to have an open relationship. Well she already started to. She said she couldn't wait anymore for us to get married. The biggest issue I have of dating again is her past. When I met her she was a "sexual healer". Not sure what that means but she was paid to help men deal with sexual problems from a spiritual sense. That's what her Taoist teacher had taught her at least. To me it was just prostitution. I was able to get her away from that and she started a great career in beauty. Fast forward 3years and now she goes on a date with a guy to a romantic getaway. I am afraid she is going backwards.
She still wants to see me and says she hopes I will finish my divorce(I am separated for 6years)and we can get married but until then she is going to start dating as she says she doesn't want to waste her 20's away waiting for me. My problem is i am so hurting inside. I can't stand the thought if her with other guys. I am not the kind of guy who wants to have several partners. I am so hurting and just need some help to get rid of the pain. Please offer any advice.
My girlfriend of 3 years wants to have an open relationship. Well she already started to. She said she couldn't wait anymore for us to get married. The biggest issue I have of dating again is her past. When I met her she was a "sexual healer". Not sure what that means but she was paid to help men deal with sexual problems from a spiritual sense. That's what her Taoist teacher had taught her at least. To me it was just prostitution. I was able to get her away from that and she started a great career in beauty. Fast forward 3years and now she goes on a date with a guy to a romantic getaway. I am afraid she is going backwards.
She still wants to see me and says she hopes I will finish my divorce(I am separated for 6years)and we can get married but until then she is going to start dating as she says she doesn't want to waste her 20's away waiting for me. My problem is i am so hurting inside. I can't stand the thought if her with other guys. I am not the kind of guy who wants to have several partners. I am so hurting and just need some help to get rid of the pain. Please offer any advice.
So do you really really think she's going to "change her stripes"?
You aren't in an open relationship, she has decided to see other people and not be 100% committed to you. After all, you are not in a position to be 100% committed to her.
You have been separated for 6 YEARS, and you have been with her for 3 of them. Shyt or get off the pot dude!!
I agree with Sixy and I would have done the same thing with a woman who was separated for 6 years and was having trouble going through with it. her background, likely, has nothing to do with this.
You aren't in an open relationship, she has decided to see other people and not be 100% committed to you. After all, you are not in a position to be 100% committed to her.
You have been separated for 6 YEARS, and you have been with her for 3 of them. Shyt or get off the pot dude!!
So do you really really think she's going to "change her stripes"?
I would bet very against it.
Sorry
Having been monogamous for 3 years I thought she saw what real relationships look like. Before it was like. What do I get from them. She says I am her first love.
There is no REAL relationship with a man still married, and you have no relationship anymore. She is seeing other people, and she is back to her old profession.
Get your life in order before you start anything new.
You aren't in an open relationship, she has decided to see other people and not be 100% committed to you. After all, you are not in a position to be 100% committed to her.
You have been separated for 6 YEARS, and you have been with her for 3 of them. Shyt or get off the pot dude!!
From what we could learn about open relationships. The rule is you have to have a number one. We are our number ones and we say we love each other. She doesn't love anyone else. She just started dating one dude and only a couple times. I frantically went on some dates too and not sure how I feel about that. I just hurt even though my gf and I are great together when we are together and text and talk all the time. We are 100 percent honest and tell each other everything. But she is meeting that dude again in a couple weeks and it is killing me. He lives in another state.
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