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In my area, there's a very small amount of black women. I'd say for every 50 white women, there's maybe 2-3 black women. Very true that most black women don't do online dating. Way more black men dabble in online dating.
I guess it depends on where you are. I live in a diverse area so there's no shortage of black people on dating sites. Not that I browse women's profiles, but I know I can't be the only black woman on there. lol
I guess it depends on where you are. I live in a diverse area so there's no shortage of black people on dating sites. Not that I browse women's profiles, but I know I can't be the only black woman on there. lol
What's funny about the profiles of black women is probably 2/3 have on their profile that they do date white guys. It seems most of them are also open to dating outside their race as well.
I actually prefer the fit, good looking, successful guys online (and off for that matter) however, in my experience the ones I encounter online (and off for that matter lol) are usually self-absorbed or players. Sometimes this is evident in their post, at least for me. Of course, I'm not saying this is the case with all men who have these qualities but for me I have seen it more often than not.
One guy may think another guy is cool but they may not necessarily see him in the same light as would a woman.
For the sake of clarity, I have to include myself in the attractive set. I think guys sometimes think the same about attractive women online.
But statistically, it's well known that there are hugely more single black women than single black men. In this day & age there's no reason to tell people that they can't date someone of another race, but at the same time, being in a minority group certainly gives people something in common. But then maybe the issue is that black women aren't as likely to be doing online dating as black men are?
Besides, it's not as if the white guys are saying the women are rushing into their arms, either.
In the white guys case many are aiming for a higher league. Not all but many. I would date black men as long as they were professional without kids. However, most I found online had illegitimate kids and were thugs. This was common with white guys too though.
One guy may think another guy is cool but they may not necessarily see him in the same light as would a woman.
A trenchant observation! Simply put, men value different things - in themselves - than do women. At least anecdotally, women seem to value (in men) well-pressed slacks and shirts free of stains. Men value good musculature and low body fat. Imagine two photos: a fit and athletic guy somewhat slovenly dressed in business-casual, not smiling, staring off into space; and a somewhat portly and flabby fellow, neatly groomed, with winning smile. I gather that the latter would be more appealing to most women, no? Ladies - your thoughts?
In short, yet another reason that online dating is frustrating for men, is that many of our most valued attributes are less valuable for women evaluating us. When we work to "improve ourselves", we're working on the wrong thing - and then resent women for their obtuseness.
A trenchant observation! Simply put, men value different things - in themselves - than do women. At least anecdotally, women seem to value (in men) well-pressed slacks and shirts free of stains. Men value good musculature and low body fat. Imagine two photos: a fit and athletic guy somewhat slovenly dressed in business-casual, not smiling, staring off into space; and a somewhat portly and flabby fellow, neatly groomed, with winning smile. I gather that the latter would be more appealing to most women, no? Ladies - your thoughts?
In short, yet another reason that online dating is frustrating for men, is that many of our most valued attributes are less valuable for women evaluating us. When we work to "improve ourselves", we're working on the wrong thing - and then resent women for their obtuseness.
I would never date a slob. I wouldn't likely date an obese or flabby (not always the same thing)either.
I actually prefer the fit, good looking, successful guys online (and off for that matter)
Huh, would've never guessed women liked those kind of guys. =)
My girlfriend actually knocks me for shopping at Buckle and places like that. She also said I'm the first guy she's ever been with that doesn't have tats. She likes tats, I think they're dumb but I don't care if people have them.
I shop all over and buy whatever looks nice, but it's mostly stuff from Columbia, Buckle, and various board/bike shops. I think she's really used to dating hipster type guys who wear tons of layers and more suit type people.
That's just not me =)
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