How to deal with being the third wheel? (boyfriend, woman, friend)

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by srjth

Well, they are not forcing you, just making an offer or presenting an opportunity to you. You're not obligated to take it, but I don't see it is them getting in your private business.

I've said it before, one of my friends is now dating a girl who was my colleague at uni. I was the one who presented them to each other. Thanks to that, now I know everything about their private life.

It's OK to me, I don't go around telling other people what's going on in their lives. But I wouldn't want my friends to also be friends with a girlfriend of mine. Too much familiarity has drawbacks.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by TitanWarrior

I've said it before, one of my friends is now dating a girl who was my colleague at uni. I was the one who presented them to each other. Thanks to that, now I know everything about their private life.

It's OK to me, I don't go around telling other people what's going on in their lives. But I wouldn't want my friends to also be friends with a girlfriend of mine. Too much familiarity has drawbacks.

Well, honestly, not everyone talks/gossips that much.

And, even if they did, so what? Love is bigger than that and worth it.

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by srjth

Well, honestly, not everyone talks/gossips that much.

And, even if they did, so what? Love is bigger than that and worth it.

They do but some people can hide it very well.

So what? Why would I want my girlfriend's friends knowing the colour of my underwear (yes, women talk about such private things with their friends)?

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by TitanWarrior

They do but some people can hide it very well.

So what? Why would I want my girlfriend's friends knowing the colour of my underwear (yes, women talk about such private things with their friends)?

Do you just wear one color?


I think you're over thinking this a tad much.

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by timberline742

Do you just wear one color?


I think you're over thinking this a tad much.

That was just one example. No, not overthinking. I know to what I listen regarding other people.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by TitanWarrior

They do but some people can hide it very well.

So what? Why would I want my girlfriend's friends knowing the colour of my underwear (yes, women talk about such private things with their friends)?

No, they don't. I promise you.

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by srjth

No, they don't. I promise you.

I must be daydreaming then, when I listen to parts of certain conversation between girls.

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by timberline742

If I can't share my "private" business with good friends, who do I talk to?

There are various types of private issues. This one only concerns me.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by TitanWarrior

I must be daydreaming then, when I listen to parts of certain conversation between girls.

SOME do. I was trying to make the point that not all women do that.
Just like not all men brag about having sex to other guys every chance they get.

[TitanWarrior]

Originally Posted by srjth

SOME do. I was trying to make the point that not all women do that.

I'd rather not risk it.