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If someone shows interest in you, but it's someone you don't find desirable, how do you react? I've noticed that some people actually get offended. It's something you expect to see in high school, but it's kind of sad to see it among adults. OK, so the ugly guy or the fat girl dared to ask you out. Why get upset about it? Why not just be flattered by the attention, assuming they showed that attention in a classy way? IMO, the people who get offended are the people who think being asked out by an undesirable person is a reflection of their own desirability. Did you ever get offended because someone you found undesirable or "out of your league" asked you out or showed interest?
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I'm flattered usually.
Yeah, if they're not rude about it, I'm always flattered. Heck, when dudes hit on my when I lived in SF (its only happened there for me) I was flattered.
Nope. Never offended, but I wasn't flattered either. Just uninterested. But nothing to be angry about. Some people, good-looking or not are just not shy to approach someone, regardless of whom, if they're interested-doesn't mean they're thinking "Oh yeah, they're ugly/average enough for me to have a shot."
Only offense would be if the guy is a sleaze in his approach/flirting. Had that happen once.
It doesn't bother me. If they ask me out, I just say, "I'm flattered, but no thank you."
There is no need to be mean or rude. In fact, it takes a special kind of cruelty to be mean to someone who merely likes you and wants to be with you. It makes me wonder if such cruel people also kick their pets out of the way for "getting underfoot."
Some people, good-looking or not are just not shy to approach someone, regardless of whom, if they're interested-doesn't mean they're thinking "Oh yeah, they're ugly/average enough for me to have a shot."
So this is what some people think, when they're approached by people they consider to be "below their league"? I've always wondered about that. Thx for the insight.
...if they're interested-doesn't mean they're thinking "Oh yeah, they're ugly/average enough for me to have a shot."
It does not necessarily mean that, one can't be certain of someone's thought process or judgment in such situations, but I think that sometimes it does mean exactly that, that they think their target is attainable to them because of some reason, the most common reason being that they are "ugly/average enough for me to have a shot"
It's flattering sometimes. (When they are not obnoxious.)
Compliments are nice, and sometimes it's nice to know that someone finds you attractive enough to want to go out with you. It can be awkward though, because some people don't rejection well. But the one sidedness gets annoying though. Story of my life.
Did you ever get offended because someone you found undesirable or "out of your league" asked you out or showed interest?
Ever? yes, when I was young and immature.
Recently?, no. But it should be a moment for self reflection if that is the only type of person of the opposite sex that shows interest in you. e.g. maybe you are not such hot stuff if the only guys approaching you are 'dorks' and 'losers'
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