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How much care does a turtle need that you would let your ex come over to take care of it?? My former employee sounds exactly like you. She broke up with her boyfriend and said "we're now friends." And so while she was on a trip she let him take care of her little doggie. The doggie survived but barely. When do young women "get" that when they are dumped there is no such thing as remaining friends with the person who dumped them. Am I missing something here?
And you are concerned about being alone on New Year's? You may not realize it, but you really do have more options than you know -- let him go and move on.
And you are concerned about being alone on New Year's?
I have to agree, generally "not wanting to be alone on New Year's" isn't a really good reason to justify staying in a relationship, question of theft aside for the moment....
You did the right thing...accusing those people of stealing from you. You know they did it. You did not jump the gun...it is your good person and lonliness thats wants this relationship to continue and make up excuses as to who stole the money. Judge Judy says that if it doesn't make sense it's not true. I had my BEST friend steal from me several times and I blew it off, made excuses for them. They just kept doing it and with no remorse. When I called them out on it they lashed out at me, made up lies and they never looked back. This person has no remorse. Do not back peddle. You are right. You will see. So what you won't have a date for New Years...you will have your pride and dignity...that is more important.
Well, if it's any comfort to you, we have these money thief "goblins" here in Missouri too. A few years ago, a girl I knew stopped by one afternoon and wanted to borrow a book from me. I was doing some laundry at the time, and had laid my billfold on a table located close to the bookshelf. I told her to help herself to my book collection, and browse all she wanted. I then went into my laundry area, leaving her alone for a time. She selected a book, thanked me, and then left. About an hour later, I went to a store to pick up a few things. There was twenty five dollars missing from my wallet, and there had been no one there except this girl, and myself. I didn't confront her right away, but within a week, I finally did. She denied it, of course, but it was her that took the money. I told her that while I didn't understand why she would steal from me, when I would have loaned her some money if she would have asked me, that I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Still, I also told her that deep down, I didn't believe her, no longer trusted her, and would very much prefer that she never came to my house again. Long story short, she stole money from me, it cost whatever type of friendship we had, and I never got the book she borrowed back either. But, in a very real sense, small losses such as this are valuable, I believe. They help us to weed out people who are un-worthy of our friendships in the first place.
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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Seem a little too convenient that he left something of his behind at your place while only caring for a turtle. Perhaps they were both in on it; your ex too cowardly enough to steal from you himself, so his friend did the dirty work.
Either way, consider this a true and strong message of this person's horrible karma and never have another thing to do with them.
These are hard times. I don't care what any expert says, but I believe this to be a recession, and people are doing horrible things for money. Make 2008 the year you are grateful he is out of your life and that gratitude will grow into attraction of new and trustworthy friends.
Keep looking forward without a second glance backwards. You're moving on to bigger and better things in the New Year!
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