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The OLD websites are holding off messages as a lure to get them to "UPGRADE". And when one does upgrade, there's a whole slew of catfish good lookers and real account bad lookers who will send messages and communicate every now and then to justify the upgrade.
Those 2 she said contacted her that she didn't like. Well, they probably are fake accounts sent by the site to agitate her and pressure her to "UPGRADE" so she'll supposedly get better leads.
I read the first few comments on the article which is the BEST part in reading any online articles. They were chastising her for complaining that no guys who she likes contacted her. But she never replied to guys who contacted her either.
Also basing on her pics she definitely would have better chance on sites with guys specifically looking for her body type. It does exist right?
I read the first few comments on the article which is the BEST part in reading any online articles. They were chastising her for complaining that no guys who she likes contacted her. But she never replied to guys who contacted her either.
Also basing on her pics she definitely would have better chance on sites with guys specifically looking for her body type. It does exist right?
Just saying...
To be fair to her, I believe the comment indicated that she only received a couple messages from guys who "weren't her type". I stated before on this thread that I'd be interested in seeing what they look like, as well as those she reached out to herself.
Her article was a great read and frankly, she wasn't unattractive. She might be a few pounds heavier than she likes but, she's not so heavy as it wouldn't be offset by her obvious wit, self-deprecating humor, and overall cheeky personality. In short, she should easily be able to find dates.
Case in point. I have a friend who goes on on-line sites and his success is remarkable in my eyes. We are both in our 50's but, he is single, I am not. Anyway, the guy is going through bankruptcy, is divorced with a brutally mean ex, has a wonderful daughter graduating high-school this year.
He's and I are working on a business while we manage our "day jobs". He's tall, fairly good looking but, no head turner and yet, whenever he goes on you-name-the-site, he has game and he pulllllls them in. He also plays a musical instrument and that, for whatever reason, draws them in. Go figure.
So far, this past two weeks, he has had dates with: A psychotherapist, a lawyer, a nurse, a talented musician who has a great website, a sales rep for staffing and an Asian woman who has her own seamstress business. They are between 40-55 years of age. All of them were attractive and accomplished. Two were actually quite attractive. I would hazard a guess that if he had met them at a bar, he wouldn't have had a chance but, put together a well-written summary and I'll show you a 40 or 50 something that is wanting to get laid. Badly. Go figure. All of the women are divorced, most have kids. NONE of them seemed to keen on much of anything but a f buddy all the while denying the same. It is heartening to see that he is opting for the doctor as she seems the most sincere.
He has openly told each and everyone of them where he is in life, that he is NOT looking to move in with anyone, will not be an annoyance and just wants to find someone nice to be with and go from there. I've seen the messages. All true. You should see the replies!!!
Money Shot: EVERY ONE (except the doctor and they are meeting Friday) OF THEM has slept with him, first date. Same results on the other dating sites. It's so bad I now have nicknames for the sites. Seems to me the sites have more to do with getting laid than finding any mates. I thought half of it was BS until I saw and READ the emails back and forth. Ridiculous. Someone should just come out with FME.com and skip the rest of the BS....
If anything they should advertise free B-12 shots to keep going. Where he gets the energy is beyond me. Cialis, Levitra and Viagra can only do so much. I have to ask him when he sleeps. The weekends are exhausting.....miracle he can even drive home.
I'm not jealous but, I find that if he can get away with it at this level, and he's not really pushing, certainly anyone can. The girl in the article is very bright, well written, seems like a great person to meet and go from there. I can't imagine it would be that difficult or, is it when women get older, they need that reassurance that much more. So much so that they do not care if the guy has a job, is bankrupt, or is available on a very limited basis? Maybe I AM jealous.....hmmmmmmmm.....
WTF? This girl should be having it waaaaaay easier than she claims. There's someone out there for her. Some of the other women I have seen on these sites??? Not so much.....doesn't make sense with this girl. Only thing I can say I learned vicariously through my friend is that, do NOT put up a phony picture. This girl is too young but, if you are older, do NOT do it. The embarrassment you may suffer later at the first date could be crushing. He did say that 2/3 of them did. The pics turned out to be 10 years or so out of date. NOT good. His thought was, if they would lie about this, they would lie about something else so why the exercise??? Be who you are or, as Billy Joel once said, sooner or later you wake up with yourself....
He went on such a date and they ended up discussing this very subject. Picture showed a slightly overweight cute girl with a great smile....shows up in a mumu with ragged hair at least 15 years hence the photo........at least the smile was there but.......well, it turns out, they will do business together but, nothing else. Neither a woman or a man needs that interaction......walking on ice!!!!
This girl is plenty attractive enough and sounds quite intelligent. Believe it or not, intelligence trumps all. Even my friend, the walking hormone, can't stick to one that is shallow...ain't that rich? I've seen him before. He does eventually gravitate to the well spoken, HIGHLY intelligent ones that leave some intrigue and can discuss almost anything. The thought being I guess is that sex, if you're lucky, last 30 minutes...but that whole evening goes on for hours? You decide.
Guys may drill the cashier at Wal-Mart because they can but, they fall in love with one who truly enjoys their company and has more than idle chit chat to discuss. Don't know any better way to put that. And no disrespect to the cashiers. All work is honorable. It's probably not going to be the first stop but, then again, who knows? It's a crazy, crazy world out there and if YOU read what I read on his messages and emails, I'm starting to think the woman "professional" is either misplaced or much, much different than what I envisioned?
This girl, or ANY other girl out there looking to meet someone needs to have an honest pic, a well written, NO BS summary and sit back. Try not to throw a ho' shot out there...no need. It sends a bad message. The thought is that if you are "advertising" the guys are wondering how many times has THIS head of lettuce been handled???? Juuuuuust saying....and while it is hypocritical, no one wants to be on the end of that trough.....Keep it to just a nice pic or two with a good summary and be open to change. You don't have to go out with anyone but, if you want to have a shot, this might be your best venue. You can show that bikini later if all works out. Don't advertise that hard. That's reserved for the 20 somethings.
This girl is sharp. Seems like she might have a great sense of humor (TREMENDOUS plus), didn't lie about herself (HUGE...HUGE here girls), and knows her limitations. Should probably give herself more credit than she does here. Also has an admirable work ethic (ANOTHER huge plus).
Update, my friend, the walking hormone, got approached by another attorney. What is with the attorneys? Is it the long hours and no time for boom-boom? Apparently, she is willing to overlook EVERYTHING with this guy. She contacts him, they talked for an hour (hope she doesn't send him a bill) and they are meeting Saturday.
I'm convinced. I AM jealous. Guys. If you haven't already, check out the dating sites. Apparently, there is all sorts of stuff my middle-aged a$$ was unaware of. The things women are doing to men.....not that there is anything wrong with that!
Christ, this guy's liver is going to quit before we get our beta production portal out. He's hitting ME up for some Cialis and HE has the better health plan! Hmmmphhhhhh.....the nerve of some people...
I've watched this guy....it's almost not fair. What is with the women over 45ish??? Like shooting fish in a barrel...me? I'm hoping he drops the musician girl and she suddenly has an "open" mind. A man could do well by that woman....she's cute AND talented....
I've watched this guy....it's almost not fair. What is with the women over 45ish??? Like shooting fish in a barrel...me? I'm hoping he drops the musician girl and she suddenly has an "open" mind. A man could do well by that woman....she's cute AND talented....
I've heard, and read, that OLD works out very well for the 40-50 crowd because they're past all the surface crap that the 20-30 crowd are still enslaved to. When you've lived half your life at 45, you develop a low tolerance for b.s., head games, etc. and that goes for both sexes.
Well, she has a very pretty face but I think here is a possible turn off:
She is overweight but can't cook. Somebody who is into bigger women might expect them to be motherly, caring, nurturing and be able to put homecooked meals onto the table.
She "TRIES" clean eating but likes all the unhealthy stuff (obviously, otherwise she wouldnt be overweight). Sounds like she is constantly struggling with weight, going up and down with it and overall an unhappy person at the moment. Women who TRY healthy eating can often be pretty miserable. Guys want women who are happy with themselves.
She should make a decision: either be overweight and enjoy sinful food or leave the food topic completely out of the profile.
However, I am NOT overweight and can't find a decent guy online either.
Well, she has a very pretty face but I think here is a possible turn off:
She is overweight but can't cook. Somebody who is into bigger women might expect them to be motherly, caring, nurturing and be able to put homecooked meals onto the table.
She "TRIES" clean eating but likes all the unhealthy stuff (obviously, otherwise she wouldnt be overweight). Sounds like she is constantly struggling with weight, going up and down with it and overall an unhappy person at the moment. Women who TRY healthy eating can often be pretty miserable. Guys want women who are happy with themselves.
She should make a decision: either be overweight and enjoy sinful food or leave the food topic completely out of the profile.
However, I am NOT overweight and can't find a decent guy online either.
Lot of women ask me "can I cook" and I am wondering if it's because she can;t cook? lol
Well, she has a very pretty face but I think here is a possible turn off:
She is overweight but can't cook. Somebody who is into bigger women might expect them to be motherly, caring, nurturing and be able to put homecooked meals onto the table.
She "TRIES" clean eating but likes all the unhealthy stuff (obviously, otherwise she wouldnt be overweight). Sounds like she is constantly struggling with weight, going up and down with it and overall an unhappy person at the moment. Women who TRY healthy eating can often be pretty miserable. Guys want women who are happy with themselves.
She should make a decision: either be overweight and enjoy sinful food or leave the food topic completely out of the profile.
However, I am NOT overweight and can't find a decent guy online either.
Eve not sure how old you are but, if you are in your 40's, it should be a slam dunk. My friend is relentless and he is not trying. I still can't quite figure it out as to why. Either he is the greatest BS'itter that ever walked the planet it or, the women are just that desperate to find a date. Makes no sense.
For decades it seems we chase. When we get older, the women start to chase. Odd. Big turn around. But, get this, he says the dates have never been more fun, the communication never better. Seems to be working for him. Probably needs vitamins twice a day at this point. Amazing.
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