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I've heard mixed responses about this from people I know and will probably hear the same thing here, but what are your thoughts? Me personally, I have been single honestly for about ten years. To me, it seems like I always go for people who I don't have a chance with. Not only when it comes to looks, but I'm also caught between a rock and a hard place. I'd considering myself a goody goody. I don't drink or smoke and I'm a virgin. I enjoy helping people as much as I can. That's also typically what I look for in a female. The one problem is though that those are characteristics that you find in a lot of Christians, which I am not. Every time I come across someone who fits those characteristics and who I also find attractive, whether it be online or in person, they always mention that they are looking for a Christian guy, which I can understand. I always say that maybe I shouldn't worry much about the drinking or smoking. Maybe I shouldn't worry too much about what the girl looks like. 50% of the time, I get told to lower my standards a bit. Te other 50% of the time, I get told to never lower my standards because that one girl will eventually come around. My thoughts are that since I have been single for so long, I might as well wait until I find that perfect girl. So...what are your thoughts? Is there ever a time where you finally need to give in a lower your standards a bit?
how old are you? how many gf's have you had? and how often are you using porn to keep you virginity going?
Judging by your horrible grammar, I'd say I'm several years older than you. I've had roughly three girlfriends in my lifetime. Your final question makes no sense to me. Thanks for the response though...
haha, i have more education than you or your parents my friend. i like to think of my grammar style more akin to the poet e.e. cummings. look him up, along with "your brain on porn", you might learn something.
and btw, if you exists with having porn meet your emotional and sexual desires, you have already lowered your standards. perhaps you should change your perspective to upgrading them instead.
OP is not even confident enough to reveal his age, like he thinks it shouldn't make a difference if he is a 18 or 40yo virgin. from what i hear, that is an important factor for a woman.
I've heard mixed responses about this from people I know and will probably hear the same thing here, but what are your thoughts? Me personally, I have been single honestly for about ten years. To me, it seems like I always go for people who I don't have a chance with. Not only when it comes to looks, but I'm also caught between a rock and a hard place. I'd considering myself a goody goody. I don't drink or smoke and I'm a virgin. I enjoy helping people as much as I can. That's also typically what I look for in a female. The one problem is though that those are characteristics that you find in a lot of Christians, which I am not. Every time I come across someone who fits those characteristics and who I also find attractive, whether it be online or in person, they always mention that they are looking for a Christian guy, which I can understand. I always say that maybe I shouldn't worry much about the drinking or smoking. Maybe I shouldn't worry too much about what the girl looks like. 50% of the time, I get told to lower my standards a bit. Te other 50% of the time, I get told to never lower my standards because that one girl will eventually come around. My thoughts are that since I have been single for so long,I might as well wait until I find that perfect girl. So...what are your thoughts? Is there ever a time where you finally need to give in a lower your standards a bit?
I rather be single than be with a jerk. I am not lowering my standards nope. But have thought why you were that long single? As you are still 25. What you mean almost 10 years single? Who will be committing in the age of 15? please be your self, enjoy your young age,,, when the time is right you will find the right person.
OP is not even confident enough to reveal his age, like he thinks it shouldn't make a difference if he is a 18 or 40yo virgin. from what i hear, that is an important factor for a woman.
Hi DR that is why there is something called profile
ohh, i guess i bear some responsibility for reviewing OP's background when he/she is asking for advice, even if i am asking a benign question. regardless, it really doesn't change my assessment and opinion, he is possibly intensely addicted to his self satisfaction while awaiting to find his "perfect girl"....
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Originally Posted by bkern1989
My thoughts are that since I have been single for so long, I might as well wait until I find that perfect girl.
chances are he has created a delusional conception of his "perfect girl" too. like, when i was 25 i don't recall anyone who counted 3 gf's under 18 as significant, maybe 1 but not 3. nevertheless, there is a good possibility that his consumption of hot young babes in porn vids isn't helping desire, potential, or capacity to find a real connection with a real woman.
and i think we do these virgin, dateless or romantic hopeless men a disservice by telling them that one day it will all workout if they stay optimistic. or maybe allowing them to be the end of their genetic line is their destiny. cuz if they can't get laid or procreate, they are simply not worthy of having any progeny.
Last edited by Dr. Clean; 10-06-2014 at 02:26 AM..
Give it another 10 more years of being a single virgin and you'll find yourself lowering your standards.
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