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I actually think there are a couple of major reasons, why for many men their standards have been much higher than historically.
I can be guilty of this myself.
Seriously how does a man in your opinion go about lowering his standards in women? even if its just a slight or moderate lowering.......
When you say standards, are you talking about physical or personality standards?
I don't think anyone should compromise on personality traits because looks fade, but who you are doesn't. If someone doesn't match your values, you are setting yourself up for failure.
If you're talking about looks, stop going after the hottest girl in the room and look for a decent looking girl who meets your personality requirements. From my experience, if you click with someone, their looks will matter less over time. I'm not saying only go for ugly girls, but there are plenty of nice, decent looking girls that get overlooked for their hot counterparts.
Basically you're asking how you can go about lowering your expectations and you really can't. If you "settle" for someone, your giving yourself he false illusion that your expectations have lowered.
Depends on what you mean by standards. My personal standards of physical beauty haven't changed. But when my physical rating might be a 4, I have no expectations of seriously dating a 10.
This happened to me. I met a woman who matched all my previous standards, physically, personality, activities. She was perfect! Then I realized I wasn't. The chance of living all those daydreams of youth were gone!
Rather than lowering your standards, consider fine tuning your standards. Review what your standards are, physical, personality, etc. Then ask yourself, is this what I truly am looking for now? You might be surprised.
After my recent relationship, my intellectual standards have been raised. The physical have stayed the same. I'm not looking for picture perfect model types; I just need to be able to look them in the face at all angles.
I actually think there are a couple of major reasons, why for many men their standards have been much higher than historically.
I can be guilty of this myself.
Seriously how does a man in your opinion go about lowering his standards in women? even if its just a slight or moderate lowering.......
Is it a matter of "standards" or unrealistic expectations? I've seen this a lot over the years. I think that the older we get we realize that unrealistic expectations can be changed without lowering your standards. The higher the expectations the more the disappointments. This doesn't mean we should have NO expectations but I think people could keep them a little more real.
I actually think there are a couple of major reasons, why for many men their standards have been much higher than historically.
I can be guilty of this myself.
Seriously how does a man in your opinion go about lowering his standards in women? even if its just a slight or moderate lowering.......
Why do men need to lower their standards, but women are allowed to raise their standards?
Is it a matter of "standards" or unrealistic expectations? I've seen this a lot over the years. I think that the older we get we realize that unrealistic expectations can be changed without lowering your standards. The higher the expectations the more the disappointments. This doesn't mean we should have NO expectations but I think people could keep them a little more real.
Exactly. One of my clients has a couple of young single women working there. In the course of working with them, it's interesting to hear what they expect in a mate. He must be good looking, well-read, funny, considerate, hold the same religious/political views, romantic at all times, love children and dogs, never have been married, like chick flicks and the ballet, not spend a lot of time with his male friends, etc. etc. etc. And yet, in the next breath, they were complaining about not having a date this weekend.
Seriously, if Jesus Christ himself had asked either of these girls out, he'd get turned down cold, because they wouldn't like the way he was dressed, wouldn't like what he did for a living, and would hate that he hung out with these twelve guys all the time. It's a shame because these are pretty nice girls, too.
I told them that I felt sorry for any man trying to fulfill their list of requirements, the dating equivalent of crawling under coils of razor wire and avoiding land mines in order to just take her out to dinner.
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By doing this do you mean going from a group who are basically good & decent to drug addicted, theiving, STD laden, burden on society wahores?
