Are women more sexually horny than men? (gay, Latin, friends)
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How do you measure your sex drive when you make this estimate? By how often you want to have sex? Something else?
I'd argue that that (the above statement) is absolutely true for most women. But I'd counter that the strength of the drive when you DO want to have sex is stronger for men. Men will do some absolutely CRAZY things in an effort to get laid, things way beyond what most women would do (even if they don't have to). I mentioned in an earlier post that it's up to interpretation. I suspect we'd interpret differently.
I measure it by how often, how long the sessions last and how adventurous one is prepared to be. I have found the men I have slept with may like to have sex as often (usually they were young guys), but they are not as adventurous or they only last for a certain period of time.
I measure it by how often, how long the sessions last and how adventurous one is prepared to be. I have found the men I have slept with may like to have sex as often (usually they were young guys), but they are not as adventurous or they only last for a certain period of time.
Hmm. "adventurousness" is an interesting one, but other than that, the other criteria you mention would obviously fall in the women's camp. Especially stamina, for biological reasons.
Conversely, the criteria I'd use would fall in the men's camp, which is why we'd disagree there. For example, I wouldn't think that "how long someone lasts" is indicative of their DRIVE. Or I'd posit that how crazy someone gets when they're not getting any IS indicative. Maybe they are, maybe they aren't, but that's one of the reasons we'd have a different opinion about drive in general.
I've always said that, using your criteria, women have a stronger sex drive. Using mine, men do.
It's an interesting read. Men's sexuality is different from women and according to this site men have a higher sex drive than women in general.
On an anecdotal note, I have always had a higher sex drive than any man I've been with although my libido has decreased in the past few years.
It might be helpful to compare apples to apples, and oranges to oranges. For example, compare women's sex drives when they're in a good relationship, with men in the same situation. Outside of a relationship, when single, I think men's drive is strongest, no contest. But things get interesting when we compare what happens when people are in a relationship. Some women become rabbits. They're like the energizer bunnies of sex! They can have sex multiple times daily, and they want PIV sex 2-3 times per encounter in addition to oral. Some dudes can keep up with that. Some can keep up short-term, but not long-term. According to a couple of women I've talked to, some dudes find that annoying. They experience it as pressure to perform, or something. Not sure what the problem is exactly, but I guess those would be the low-drive guys.
If you measure women's libido by a male metric, the study results will look like men have the higher drive. If you measure both genders' libido by a female metric, the picture gets interesting and has some surprises.
It might be helpful to compare apples to apples, and oranges to oranges. For example, compare women's sex drives when they're in a good relationship, with men in the same situation. Outside of a relationship, when single, I think men's drive is strongest, no contest. But things get interesting when we compare what happens when people are in a relationship. Some women become rabbits. They're like the energizer bunnies of sex! They can have sex multiple times daily, and they want PIV sex 2-3 times per encounter in addition to oral. Some dudes can keep up with that. Some can keep up short-term, but not long-term. According to a couple of women I've talked to, some dudes find that annoying. They experience it as pressure to perform, or something. Not sure what the problem is exactly, but I guess those would be the low-drive guys.
If you measure women's libido by a male metric, the study results will look like men have the higher drive. If you measure both genders' libido by a female metric, the picture gets interesting and has some surprises.
The piece that surprised me was that women thought men would have a 50% success rate. Like the average woman thought that the average man could walk up to a bunch of women, ask them to ****, and 50% of them would say yes. Seriously? I will argue that to the death with anyone who will listen, and yet, most women felt this way.
I don't know if that's what most women think. Of course walking up to a strange woman and asking her to **** isn't going to work. But if a guy flirts with a woman a bit, plays pool with her or dances with her, etc, (generally creating a slow burn) and then whispers, "let's get out of here" in her ear, then sure, that could totally work.
I don't know if that's what most women think. Of course walking up to a strange woman and asking her to **** isn't going to work. But if a guy flirts with a woman a bit, plays pool with her or dances with her, etc, and whispers, "let's get out of here" in her ear, then sure, that could totally work.
Well, it was one survey (1000-ish people?), so take that with a grain of salt. That said, it was very clearly laid out...point blank question. And the average woman felt that men would succeed 50% of the time. (even more troubling was that it was an AVERAGE, meaning a lot of women felt it was HIGHER!!!) They're wrong, obviously...but the psychological explanation behind it is obvious as well...."it would work for me, it works for them, right?".
Same reason that a lot of guys believe that women want to see dick pics right away; they subconsciously know that THEY would like naked pics FROM the women, so they assume that women want the same thing. Again, they're wrong, but it's their ignorance about the other gender that blinds them. Alternatively, it's why guys don't understand why physical appearance/looks isn't as important to women as it is to men.
To the bolded portion: That's the common perception, but I question how true this is. Just about any woman who adopts "sex with a man" as the singular purpose and goal of her evening, just about any evening, has a pretty good chance of being successful. I tend to agree with that.
However, I would posit that just about any man who adopts "sex with a woman" as the singular purpose and goal of his evening, just about any evening, also has a pretty good chance of being successful.
What's rarely talked about is that a woman who wants sex no matter what is probably going to have to relax some standards or compromise some principles in order to accomplish this goal. The same is true of a man. If he relaxes his standards enough and compromises his principles enough... He's going to get laid. He may have to work harder to accomplish his goal and relax his standards / compromise his principles more than his female counterpart, but promiscuous sex with no strings is generally within reach at any time to him as well... Whether he realizes it or not.
Even though I am a woman, I have to agree with you on this. I once discussed this issue with my male friends. Until then I had the opinion that it might be easier for women to get laid, but all of them strongly disagreed with me. They said in our modern dating world guys can get laid anytime, without even putting some effort into it.
I think, women can be 'just as or more' with certain variables: she has to be in a loving relationship, be in a good mood, off her period, the stars and moon has to align just right-after a lunar eclipse, etc.
Men need none of that. The world could end tomorrow and a guy would only think of getting laid one last time, Lol
Even though I am a woman, I have to agree with you on this. I once discussed this issue with my male friends. Until then I had the opinion that it might be easier for women to get laid, but all of them strongly disagreed with me. They said in our modern dating world guys can get laid anytime, without even putting some effort into it.
I'm gonna go so far as to say your male friends are wrong, barring some ridiculous options that wouldn't put them in a place to make such a statement.
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