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The first real love is always the hardest. Time and distance from the person usually does the trick. I think it took me around 4 months until I realized I didn't think about my first ex anymore and genuinely felt like I let go of any anger or regrets.
Until you find someone else to keep in your thoughts, do what you're doing to keep busy and happy with yourself. It also really helped me to think about what I need and want from a relationship, acknowledge that it wasn't given to me in the previous one, and move forward with a new perspective and expectation. Remember the moments you two weren't compatible and remind yourself you can work to find someone who won't clash with you in those ways.
I played a lot of Cross Canadian Ragweed. Don't need you was the main song. Lots of windshield time. That was cathartic. Yes, I did reflect on what I could do different next time.
I broke up with my ex 2 months ago and I still think about her constantly. We were only together for 6 months, but we had a lot of great memories. I made a thread about this a few days after we broke up to get some differing opinions on if i made the right decision. I think I did, most of my friends/family agree w/ me, and most of the posts on this forum were in agreement. I don't really understand why i can't just let it go, accept my decision, and move on... I think the main reason is b/c she was my first adult relationship and the first girl I had sex with. Maybe that is making it more difficult, i dont know... I've done all the post break up things people say you should do. I've been out of town a few times, got back in the gym harder than ever, and went on a date for the first time yesterday since I broke up. Just seeing what other people's experiences were.
Time.
As others have said it just pretty much takes some time. Stay busy like you are, stay open to new things.
This is the million dollar question. Like other posters said, "Time". But it's still painful and can be so difficult to not go over and over things in your mind.
No contact, absolutely. Don't allow yourself avenues to "watch" her on her social media. It will only make you crazy, esp when you realize she is starting move on.
Some powerful break up songs are key, I think. Because they will reinforce that you are strong and that you will get through it and you are better off without the person. Don't listen to the sappy stuff - just the empowering stuff.
And yes, keep as busy as humanly possible. It will probably feel forced for awhile, and then you will realize that you aren't thinking of her as much and the hard part of the journey will be over...
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