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I didn't mean what I said in an arrogant way at all. But I have made a connection with a few guys here and there who reached out and we started a get to know you conversation that led to meeting in person. My only point was a lot of guys do initiate, so if you are sitting back waiting for the dating world to change and women to pursue you, then you're going to lose out to guys who aren't afraid to get out there and approach women.
I like how you turned this around on me when I was initially responding to lady issues. Clever girl.
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Originally Posted by strawberrykiki
If women are not replying to you, then maybe you are the one who needs to change their approach.
I probably had an 80% response rate when I was actively pursuing women on OKC. But after several "ghostings", flake-outs, and dates that led nowhere, I became jaded like a lot of people. So I just threw my hands up and said the hell with it. I don't deserve this. That's why I look at your pictures, like/swipe right, and go on with my life as if you didn't exist.
I had a lengthy conversation with a guy the other night and I initiated the conversation. He ended it by saying he had to go to bed and then told ME to contact HIM tomorrow. Seriously??
Can't say I'd be less annoyed if a girl said that.
I like how you turned this around on me when I was initially responding to lady issues. Clever girl.
I probably had an 80% response rate when I was actively pursuing women on OKC. But after several "ghostings", flake-outs, and dates that led nowhere, I became jaded like a lot of people. So I just threw my hands up and said the hell with it. I don't deserve this. That's why I look at your pictures, like/swipe right, and go on with my life as if you didn't exist.
I just feel like there's this myth around CD that women never get ghosted or flaked out on and it's not true at all. That dating is easy for us. Getting dates is pretty easy if you are halfway good looking, but finding a decent person who actually wants the same things you do? Just as hard for women.
I just feel like there's this myth around CD that women never get ghosted or flaked out on and it's not true at all. That dating is easy for us. Getting dates is pretty easy if you are halfway good looking, but finding a decent person who actually wants the same things you do? Just as hard for women.
I don't think that either sex has it particularly easy. Sometimes they just have different obstacles that they face. You have to admit, though, that guys have an extra layer of difficulty added on by the fact that they usually have to do the pursuing. For some, like me, that's a gigantic obstacle because we've faced so much rejection already that it has killed our motivation to pursue any longer. I feel like I have a lot to offer, but I'm at point now where I think that nobody deserves what I have to offer. So why put in the effort to pursue them?
I don't think that either sex has it particularly easy. Sometimes they just have different obstacles that they face. You have to admit, though, that guys have an extra layer of difficulty added on by the fact that they usually have to do the pursuing. For some, like me, that's a gigantic obstacle because we've faced so much rejection already that it has killed our motivation to pursue any longer. I feel like I have a lot to offer, but I'm at point now where I think that nobody deserves what I have to offer. So why put in the effort to pursue them?
This.
When you got a guy who's got an ~80% reply rate fed up, imagine what it's like for those of us with a 0.05% reply rate.
If you're fed up with an 80% reply rate, you might be expecting too much.
You mean like an actual relationship to emanate from an online dating site? Maybe you're on to something. Maybe I am expecting too much.
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