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#1 + #2 = no way I will be perusing you... people with this type of strategy can play hard to get and games with people until they are 50 and live alone with a house full of cats, sorry...
I for one don't subscribe to that "cool guy" thing about not calling a girl I am interested in right away. If I want to get to know someone, I do, and if she wants to play games, she can play them alone, or with someone other dude
Pondering this further, I think that the "hard to get" strategy becomes operative in environments where lots of young, unattached people congregate. It's a subset of modern courtship rituals, amongst persons where relationships are easy to initiate, but difficult to maintain. The point evidently is less to manipulate, than to broadcast signals of status. So this might work for example in a hip urban enclave with lots of recent college graduates congregating in lofts, bars, high-rise offices and trendy restaurants. It fails abjectly in a small town, in a place where most people find partners by age 25 or so, or amongst persons no longer young.
#2 is especially dumb. I don't think I'd ever try to ask out a girl after she had rejected me once. And anyway I wouldn't want to date someone who plays stupid games like that.
One thing I would like to add to this - even though I've never been the type to play hard to get (I'm just not good at hiding my feelings) - I have had guys not give up on me. When you are talking about an imaginary woman playing hard to get - it's easy to say that it doesn't work. If it's someone that you have fallen for - you might see things differently.
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One thing I would like to add to this - even though I've never been the type to play hard to get (I'm just not good at hiding my feelings) - I have had guys not give up on me. When you are talking about an imaginary woman playing hard to get - it's easy to say that it doesn't work. If it's someone that you have fallen for - you might see things differently.
I beg to differ. I would be a thirsty desperate fool if that happens.
How would one court a guy? Flowers, poetry, long discussions of mutual interests in front of the fireplace? Gomez Adams might love that kind of stuff...but actually courting a real man seems like it would be a mystery.
I did buy a guy a video game and for Valentine's day, I gave him a Darth Vader holding a rose...and now I'm his good friend, Jenna...bestest friend ever...besties, besties, besties..
#4 is OK, but it should go both ways. (Likewise for 3, 5, 6 and 7 too.)
As for #1 and #2....friggin' LMAO. Mind games can be fun in some situations and with the right people, but NOT here. This is ridiculous. To me, no means no.
Conclusion: Any woman who thinks like Liz Crokin probably isn't the right one for me.
Well I am glad to see that most women don't view the hard to get way of dating to be a good way to date. As long as people respect themselves as well as the person they are dating then there is no need for silly games.
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