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I would proceed as normal including the benefits. Eventually you will become exclusive or move on. Don't put any pressure on her or act weird...roll with it and see what happens next. Obviously you care for each other if you've been best friends for five years.
Yes - this. To automatically downgrade her from being your best friend because you had sex with her seems to say you don't treat your girlfriends very well! Why not slow this down a bit and talk to her about it - admit you feel weird and confused and have a conversation as soon as possible. If she doesn't want a sexual relationship don't ASSUME you can't remain friends - give it a try if she's accepting of that.
But if the OP is serious, then the serious reply is to pose to his friend/lover precisely the same question that he posted on the Forum: "What should we do now?" Friendship means that both voices matter, and if she is inclined towards a more substantive romantic relationship, then it makes sense to proceed. And if not, not.
Postscript: many of us so fondly wish that we ourselves had to grapple with such problems!
she's all yours bro. my advice: keep hanging out, dating her, and having sex until you both figure out what you guys want.
honestly, i really don't understand what the issue you are really wrestling with unless it's uncertainty being in an LTR with her, after all you guys have been great friends for 5 years now. personally i think it's odd to be friends with a woman for that long unless there wasn't any sexual chemistry to begin with.
anyway, you guys are only 20years old, just keep working through it while humping away until one of you figure out you want it long term, or not.
People frequently say this, however... I have a very close guy friend that I have been tight with for 30 years. The sex is spectacular between us, we can talk about anything and everything, yet we are not in a relationship. Things are not so easy.
If you're having sex, you're in a relationship. It's just not a conventional relationship.
Ive always thought it counterintuitive to pursue relationships with strangers, but not your best friend youre attracted to and comfortable with in every way.
I'm going to read though 4 pages then I gonna give my advice. But if your best friend she still dating hre BF, the you should STOP having sex with her, it about "Moral"
but OP, don't feel awkward, it not that uncommon, she is your best friend afterall. Friends get drunk and sleep with each others, friends get caught up in the momment and sleep with each others.
I was in a situation MORE awkward than you. I lost my virginity to a guy who is in my neighborhood, so we neighbors. None of us were drunk at the time, so we fully know what we doing, lol
Now that really AWKWARD, who in their right mind would get freaky with their neighbor right?
Even till now I'm still shock, but he is my BF though, we in committed relationship before I sleep with him.
Also, reading the original post was like an erotic romance novel. I read it like seven times and havent been this aroused since January 2, 20xx. This is great literature. Lets watch The Notebook together if things with your friend don't work out! I really need some foot and full body care.
Yes - this. To automatically downgrade her from being your best friend because you had sex with her seems to say you don't treat your girlfriends very well! Why not slow this down a bit and talk to her about it - admit you feel weird and confused and have a conversation as soon as possible. If she doesn't want a sexual relationship don't ASSUME you can't remain friends - give it a try if she's accepting of that.
If she did you, what's stopping her from doing others?
What stops anyone from having sex with anyone else?
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