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I notice alot of relationship help threads with issues with significant other:
It goes something like this:
For example, my girlfriend/boyfriend did X and Y to me. Such as, my girlfriend is always yelling at me. Today, when I got home, she was screaming at me, calling me a loser.
And the responses immediately result is something like "leave him/her. You deserve better" or "what a crazy freak!"
1. Problem is that we are hearing only 1 side of the story. You can conveniently leave out all parts of something. You can conveniently leave the fact that she found out you were cheating on her best friend. Which then perfectly explains the yelling.
2. Did anyone actually take the advice of relationship help?
I notice alot of relationship help threads with issues with significant other:
It goes something like this:
For example, my girlfriend/boyfriend did X and Y to me.
And the responses immediately result is something like "leave him/her. You deserve better" or "what a crazy freak!"
1. Problem is that we are hearing only 1 side of the story.
2. Did anyone actually take the advice of relationship help?
Unless both people in the relationship are here posting, obviously you will only hear one side.
In my case, for what I have posted, I have most definitely taken peoples here advise under consideration, and have incorporated some of what has been suggested into my life.
I notice alot of relationship help threads with issues with significant other:
It goes something like this:
For example, my girlfriend/boyfriend did X and Y to me. Such as, my girlfriend is always yelling at me. Today, when I got home, she was screaming at me, calling me a loser.
And the responses immediately result is something like "leave him/her. You deserve better" or "what a crazy freak!"
1. Problem is that we are hearing only 1 side of the story. You can conveniently leave out all parts of something. You can conveniently leave the fact that she found out you were cheating on her best friend. Which then perfectly explains the yelling.
2. Did anyone actually take the advice of relationship help?
If you look at the replies, which do NOT always default to "leave him/her," you will see that they typically address the unhealthy issues mentioned in the OP and they often pick up on problems not suspected by the OP.
Smart people KNOW these scenarios only represent one perspective. People can only give advice based on what info they are given. I think your observation is based on a short time reading here.
The herd isn't always in favor of hearing a different perspective. But to be perfectly honest, I think most that post here look for others peoples opinions and take those with a grain of salt. At least I would hop no one is using the advice found here as a definite plan to resolve their issues.
The problem with this forum, is that some will start threads that deal with the same issue, with the same person. It's almost like they believe that if they start enough threads, that one of them will have replies that they are in favor of. I mean, I can understand if a person wants to vent to a forum about an issue, to get it off their chest. However, I feel that many times when people post, they aren't really asking for advice, but instead they want to get vindicated for their actions. I think rarely do people actually listen to the forums advice, so after so many threads started with the same spirit of topic, that members get a little jaded with their response.
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