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My point was that the OP has likely attracted men who have their act together (and probably had some level of advanced education) and are not "project men," but those guys were not up to her standards of "hotness."
The guys who are up to that standard are more likely to be "project guys."
Do you have an education? If not, are you of the opinion that getting one would serve no purpose?
Single men who are educated will date single moms. I've been a single mom and dated them.
I'm just saying they are more likely to date a single mom who is also educated.
And...one isn't likely to be a single mom who has no degree and 2 kids from different dads while collecting food stamps who can land a man who has his act together and looks like a male model who stars in country western music videos.
On edit: yeah. It's a stereotype. Men can be hot and smart. But, if they are under the age of about 45, they'll probably be looking for someone younger than the OP who has no kids.
Ah so she isn't giving the guys that have their stuff together because they aren't hot? Well that's just narrowminded.
Yes I'm educated, getting what a man? Yes he would serve a purpose.
Lol educated women can be single with many kids.Example would be a woman who divorced three guys and had children with all of them.Maybe her education should of got her better birth control.
Please no guy I date even knows I get foodstamps. They see me show up in a $40k+ car, dressed nicely, wearing expensive jewelry. And based on my profile city, they can see I live in a pricier town. By appearance, no one would guess I get food stamps. Heck the value of my daily jewelry exceeds the value of a lot of peoples cars.
So you bringing up the foodstamps every chance you get really has no beating whatsoever on my dating life.
LOL.. you talk about 40k cars... yeah... with an 8 yr payment on it... I could buy that cash if I wanted to.......
There was a man in Michigan that won a small lottery prize and still received benefits. They've changed the WIC program so now they just issue EBT cards with a set dollar amount that loads each month and can only be used to purchase "food" (define that as you will). At my income, despite single parent status, I don't qualify.
What the OP continues to fail on is realizing that she's apparently NOT all that she believes she is. Until she accepts that she's not the "great catch" she believes herself to be, she will continue to focus on the wrong priorities for a mate. I'm preaching to the choir, I know.
The men that fall under the OP's desired list (wealthy, good with money, trendy, smart, good looking, etc) all have the pick of the litter. She's not hitting that top percentage (could be from looks, baggage, or just craptastic attitude?). Until she fixes what is not putting her at that top percentage, she will continue to get the types of men that she's attracting in.
Ah, but self reflection is a doozie.. It means you gotta be honest with yourself.
She needs to change her mind set but I see many ladies that like the needy man.They like to feel wanted.Personally I have a child, I don't need another.lol!
Lol cheap ass... I was always the rich girl growing up.
This entire thread you've been talking about how glamorous your lifestyle is; your expensive cars, expensive houses, expensive jewelry, expensive clothes, etc. Yet, you have no college degree, you're collecting food stamps, you have two kids from two different daddys, and you're working an admin job? I doubt you're grossing over $45k/yr, and I'm even more doubtful you're netting $10k/yr. I know people like you back from where I grew up. Living high on the hog on very little income. We used to call that hood rich. Do you even have a 401k, HSA, or IRA set up? Doubtful.
I think Chowhound has you pegged. You sound like a project girl yourself. You need to reassess your standards IMO.
She needs to change her mind set but I see many ladies that like the needy man.They like to feel wanted.Personally I have a child, I don't need another.lol!
It's probably leased or salvaged. That's how my broke friends back in the 'D' made it happen.
True... one of the things that a lot men, myself included, do, is that we associate a sweet ride with hot chicks or the ability to pull down hot chicks.
A nice car does nothing of the sort, and the type of women they do pull down, isn't the type of woman you want anyway.... so its' a catch 22.
One of the young dudes I work with just bought a challenger srt8... that is a bad boy for those who don't know... nice nice ride... 38k plus I think they are... sweet ride and if I was to succumb to the sweet rides... that would be that one... I test drove one one time it was nice.....
If you buy it and want it for it.. and not for the tail potential, you're golden... otherwise .... don't bother....
That's why I had a clapped out old pickup. If she was willing to ride in that, she was worth my time. I like my pickups.
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