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I can see that happening. Then the woman is forced to work 2 jobs to support herself because she didn't further her education after highschool.
I wasn't saying it like that. I was meaning more of she had a corporate job, or owned her own business, but stepped aside on her dreams to help her husband accomplish his.
I can see that happening. Then the woman is forced to work 2 jobs to support herself because she didn't further her education after highschool.
Which would be her own damn fault. There is no excuse for rendering oneself unemployable. Even stay at home moms who quit their jobs have the opportunity (and responsibility, IMO) to keep their professional skills sharp.
I wasn't saying it like that. I was meaning more of she had a corporate job, or owned her own business, but stepped aside on her dreams to help her husband accomplish his.
gotcha... Yeah, I've seen women do that when they have children and she decides to be a stay-at-home mom.
Then once the last kid in the family is out of HS., the parents get a divorce. I've seen it happen. My college educated Aunt homeschooled her kids until they were in HS. When the youngest kid was done with school, my Uncle cheated on her and she had to find work to support herself
I think the OP may mean "give up everything" in the sense of someone sacrificed a whole lot more for the union to work. Say for instance a woman sacrificing her career to see that her husband gets his career, to only be left behind by the younger and "hotter" secretary. Those kinds of "give up everything" scenarios.
That happened to me when I married. My ex was in the military so first I moved on the other side of the country when we married (giving up a very good job I had). I also left behind my family and all my close friends to move someplace I didn't know... and knew no one there. It sucked because he deployed a couple of weeks after our marriage and after I moved out there.
I got a new job and made new friends, but then we moved every two years... meant I had to get a new job every two years too. I also was constantly "giving up" those friends too. His friends were other military guys so they kind of moved around getting orders at the same places--sticking together. I made friends with wives when I could, but a lot of times I had nothing in common with them and eventually all the wives I knew were gone (his friends divorced). I missed out on a lot of things with my family too.
And in the end it never worked and he left me. Oh well. On the bright side, I moved back closer to home and I now have settled in a job where I've finally started moving up the corporate ladder because, for a change, I am not quitting after a couple of years to move to the next duty station.
So I didn't give up everything. I met new people along the way and I stayed true to myself. But I did sacrifice a lot for him.
gotcha... Yeah, I've seen women do that when they have children and she decides to be a stay-at-home mom.
Then once the last kid in the family is out of HS., the parents get a divorce. I've seen it happen. My college educated Aunt homeschooled her kids until they were in HS. When the youngest kid was done with school, my Uncle cheated on her and she had to find work to support herself
Too often these women find themselves on the pubic dole because they failed to have a contingency plan in the event they found themselves single and self-supporting again.
Or they grab for the nearest male with a job, and we know how well those desperate second marriages turn out.
I think the OP may mean "give up everything" in the sense of someone sacrificed a whole lot more for the union to work. Say for instance a woman sacrificing her career to see that her husband gets his career, to only be left behind by the younger and "hotter" secretary. Those kinds of "give up everything" scenarios.
That's what happened in the Betty Broderick murder case. She worked two jobs to put hubby through law school and med school and he dumped her for his bimbo secretary.
I can see that happening. Then the woman is forced to work 2 jobs to support herself because she didn't further her education after highschool.
I know a woman who had like a Masters degree in her home country but she gave it all up to come to the USA and marry an American citizen. Her "credential" was not recognized in the US, she basically went from being a "assistant Dean at a private school" to being a housekeeper making 33% of her former income. But she still had like 4 kids and lived happily ever after, I think.
That's what happened in the Betty Broderick murder case. She worked two jobs to put hubby through law school and med school and he dumped her for his bimbo secretary.
It happens on both sides of the coin too. I know two women who loved the men they were married too, but over the years hated the weight they gained and the difficulties their marriages were having. Both got gastric bypass surgery and one has divorced her husband and the other is about to do the same. It's not that their marriage was perfect at that point, but the rapid weight loss pushed them to get back into the dating scene. The men that didn't pay attention to them before, were paying attention to them now. A marriage that was on rocky ground, but salvageable, was no longer worth it when they felt they could "trade up".
It happens on both sides of the coin too. I know two women who loved the men they were married too, but over the years hated the weight they gained and the difficulties their marriages were having. Both got gastric bypass surgery and one has divorced her husband and the other is about to do the same. It's not that their marriage was perfect at that point, but the rapid weight loss pushed them to get back into the dating scene. The men that didn't pay attention to them before, were paying attention to them now. A marriage that was on rocky ground, but salvageable, was no longer worth it when they felt they could "trade up".
That's happening right now with a woman I know. She lost 100 lbs and wants to divorce her husband, but because she has never worked and has no employment prospects, she can't afford to!
How many of you have been in those types of relationships, where you gave up everything for your partner? Or you know of people who have done this before? What do you think of the people who do these things?
Honestly, I don't think about it, but clearly you have an opinion. What do YOU think about it, OP?
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