This girl is telling me that she is pregnant and the only logical conclusion is i'm the father...HELP!! (married, statistics)
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Child support is paid when there is a custodial parent and has nothing to do with collecting welfare reimbursements. My question was where do they collect for welfare from the noncustodial parent.
Ex: Guy and girl make $15K each. Girl gets pregnant and now qualifies for WIC, SNAP, EITC, child credits, Medicaid, Pell grants, free school lunches, head start, and child care (where available). Guy pays $3K in CS. According to the other poster the county will also come after the guy for the $10K+ in welfare bennies.
I'm talking about reimbursement for welfare checks, as you originally stated. I don't know if the county goes after non-custodial for WIC, SNAP, child care, or Medicaid. EITC, child credits, Pell grants, free school lunches, and head start have nothing to do with the county.
Typically the collection is done via wage garnishment.
No, if a woman on welfare chooses not to file for child support, the state will on her behalf to try to recoup their losses.
But only if she doesn't go after him for support. You're right he doesn't have to pay twice.
That's not what we were talking about though. Most states have the authority to offset at least some welfare with the CS payments, but the other poster said the state will come after the non custodial parent for welfare reimbursements.
I'm talking about reimbursement for welfare checks, as you originally stated. I don't know if the county goes after non-custodial for WIC, SNAP, child care, or Medicaid. EITC, child credits, Pell grants, free school lunches, and head start have nothing to do with the county.
Typically the collection is done via wage garnishment.
The county isn't going to have anything to do with most welfare programs as most programs are federal, but still...
Where do they go after the non custodial father for reimbursement and if you aren't talking about WIC, SNAP, child care, Medicaid, etc. what are you talking about?
Yes, that is what I said because it COULD be his kid. if it IS, then he would probably feel like crap because he didn't support a kid that was his beforehand. What are you saying?! Don't do ANYTHING until the exact moment that he knows, when he could have already been taking care of his business?? So you would be okay with NOT helping a pregnant mother of a kid that may or may not be yours, and then later you find out it IS yours but you haven't a thing for it? So now you haven't been there throughout the pregancy, haven't called, haven't done anything only to find out later that the kid actually IS yours. If that's okay with you, fine! Do you and move around.
Huh?
Stop hyperventilating.
Reading comprehension is your friend.
I cannot get over all the posters on here advising "tell her get an abortion" ; "put it up for adoption", etc.
It is unsure if you are even the father. It is her body, she is carrying the baby and the decision when the father is determined should be up to the parents, not a bunch of strangers on a board.
OP, you sound like you are choosing not to worry yourself sick over it. You have said you will help provide for it if it is yours. That is great that you are not throwing a fit and calling her a liar as well as a host of other names. There are quite a few men who probably would be doing just that.
And I'll just bet that the majority of people on here who ranted about you not having "safe sex" probably do not have a 100% track record of doing so themselves.
The county isn't going to have anything to do with most welfare programs as most programs are federal, but still...
Where do they go after the non custodial father for reimbursement and if you aren't talking about WIC, SNAP, child care, Medicaid, etc. what are you talking about?
Funding for welfare comes from the federal government, but the program is administered at the county level. To sign up for welfare, you go to your county's social services department.
I'm talking about welfare checks. You stated tell her she will be a single mother on welfare. Isn't drawing a welfare check what you meant by that?
OP I am sorry you find yourself in this situation. You appear to have more maturity than some posters here. Those who advise you to wrap up and all that should explore their own narrow misses . I agree it was a mistake but you are human.
Stressful time for you and her but keeping calm will only help.
Good luck. Let testing prove the paternity. Best wishes.
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