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We fell in love long ago and then she left me after 2 years of a relationship.
Well its been about five years since and we've had random hook ups here and then but the whole time we've been seeing other people and even been in other relationships.
We hung out recently and got close but she told me she had feelings for someone else, I told her never to talk to me again and that I was done with her.
About a year after that we started talking again and she tells me she is falling back in love with me again after just two months..
Is this even possible or is she just leading me on? Or maybe just using me for comfort? She is planning on moving out of the state in 8 months but we both agree that life is crazy and we are both apparently open to a relationship even though she's moving.
We are fully engaged in sex, foreplay, calling each other pet names, spending too much time together and talking about everything.
I don't know. It wouldn't work for me cause I have exactly zero desire to get back with any of mine. But I know people who've tried and it sort of worked out. Until it didn't, again.
I think one of the major factors of success or failure depends on the root cause of what broke you up in the first place and whether or not it has been resolved to both of your satisfaction. If you still have that elephant in the room then sooner or later it's going to sit on top of one or both of you and you'll be back to being suffocated by the same crap all over again.
If you're both starting over with a clean slate, legit, and committed to not rehashing the past whenever you get into arguments then it's possible that it might work out for you. But I think you should go into this with your eyes open and ready to address any issues that arise as soon as they happen. And if you find yourselves falling into similar negative patterns as the last time, be ready to work it out or else accept that you're not meant to be together.
If you are both receptive to being together and in participating in sexual intimacy with one another, and it sounds like that is what you have been doing, why are you concerned about her leading you on and especially since she is moving in eight months. She sounds like she doesn't even know what she wants from what you described and I would be more concerned about falling in love again with someone I was in an unsuccessful relationship with previously and someone who I may have to "get over" again after that person moves away.
I honestly don't know how people get back together after they break up. I've tried it but it always falls flat of the first time we got together. And each time I get back with that person I see more of why they're not right for me. If it's going in the other direction for you then it might be worth exploring but I would probably be tired of the person by now.
we were each others first real relationship but we got separated by college and then she ended up dumping me because she wanted to explore.
I did plenty of exploring right after myself, so we are even.
The bolded does cause me concern. Sounds like you are approaching getting back together with a mindset of competition already and not a forgiving attitude and willingness to start over.
This is not a healthy approach. Relationships are certainly not about keeping score.
Yes, sometimes you can get back together with an ex, but generally there are reasons you broke up in the first place and typically they are big enough that you would not want to pursue a relationship down the road.... but anything is possible.
Not for me. Once I'm done, I'm done. There's no turning back, an ex is an ex for a reason, and what I've found is that people rarely change and transform to the point where suddenly become compatible with you when they weren't before.
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