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Okay??? In my first post I said I can't believe he isn't friend-zoned, but if he isn't then he needs to be the one to escalate the relationship.
Right. But you were already in a sexual relationship each time, so hanging out worked for you. What the OP is trying to do is to get into a sexual relationship. I'm not saying what you did was effective or not, but it's not applicable to the OP's situation.
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No, by flirting more, kissing her, or making some other sexually suggestive move. They already hang out.
He said he wants a girlfriend, not a FWB.
What problem do you have with someone asking someone on a date?
They hang out, they don't date. I hung out with, and even got it on with a bunch of people in college, they weren't girlfriends like what the OP says he wants, they were people I hung out with and screwed around with.
Right. But you were already in a sexual relationship each time, so hanging out worked for you. What the OP is trying to do is to get into a sexual relationship. I'm not saying what you did was effective or not, but it's not applicable to the OP's situation.
No, no, no. What I meant was I kept the relationship sexual so there was no confusion, not that it was a sexual relationship. Someimes I am successful and sometimes I'm not. For example, when my ex and I would go out there was never any ambiguity about what I wanted even though we never went out on a "date".
What problem do you have with someone asking someone on a date?
They hang out, they don't date. I hung out with, and even got it on with a bunch of people in college, they weren't girlfriends like what the OP says he wants, they were people I hung out with and screwed around with.
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Or by doing what I said. He already knows her and already has a relationship, albeit platonic.
What you said won't get him an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (or there is a small chance of it). It might get him laid. That's different.
They have a friendship right now. That's it.
You seem to have something against the term "date". I have no idea why. You even said you went out with your ex (I assume not your ex at the time), but it wasn't a date. Of course it was. Going out with a girlfriend or someone you have a romantic relationship (different from a sexual relationship) with is a date.
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