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Men tend to think more about sex than women do , and it's not just humans .
Fact is when you've got something sensitive between your legs you can't forget about it.
It's impossible. you can distract and do a lot of things but in the end it's still there.
Practically every night going to bed I have to adjust my self to get comfortable and even then ,there are times I get dreams of holding her ( my wife) that excite me but when I awaken and all excited, she's asleep and not really a morning person.
Women don't all excite over sex like men seem to normally .
I might recommend ,don't be competitive .
May be he'd like to see you naked a little more often even if there is no sex involved .
Go to the gym together, and shower together regularly.
NEED him to wash your back ,and your feet , and do the same for him .
Need his hands giving you a massage after the gym.
The more things you two NEED each other for, the better.
I guarantee you though, the less you need one another, the divide is a natural. and competition for attention or "MY WAY" becomes heated.
You may not like what I have to say, but IMHO, many men seek out porn for entertainment because their sex life at home is lacking. How often do you folks have sex. Does he want it more but you decline often? Is your sex life repetitive? Does he try to get you to try new things, and you decline that also? Instead of getting upset about the porn, you might try to find out what he thinks about the quality of your sex life? Maybe its time for some honest conversations with your husband. Many women don't understand that a man's sex drive can be very strong. For some men, its not a matter of being in the mood. Day or night, they're usually in the mood. Their switch is always on. Talk to your husband.
Our sex life is pretty good. We do make love 4 times or more in a week. and to say , Iam up early morningeven before I found out about this, just to give him a bj. He always said, that I'm great and I I'm a maniac Though. And the I keeps him satisfied.
He is not a porn addict if you still have a good sex life.
Porn addicts prefer porn to actual sex with a person (look it up).
As long as he still desires you, I wouldn't worry. It's normal.
Also, I talked with many guys about porn and they often said that just because they look at a specific theme, doesn't mean they actually would want that in real life. So just because he looks at women with big boobs doesn't mean he would prefer you have big ones. Don't get self esteem issues over that!!!
my husband and I are married three years now. Caught him by accident, we are about to watched a movie and we hooked up his computer to our TV. Then boom, all of the naked photos, downloads, with different folders, pops up! Different poses Of woman Naked. Specially busty woman. Where I felt that my little boobs is not of a turn oN. I felt bad about myself. and we talked about this in many occasions that I felt bad, upset. And not comfortable. But He did it again. this time when I'm going to back up my phone to his mac. Everything sync in to my phone. Even a sexy photo of my few sexy friends. Sorry, but I need somebody who can help me understand this situation. It AmaZes me how my declared feelings of hurt is not recognized.
Thanks for the beautiful people who will take time to read this.
"addiction" is a strong word
people (men or women) looking at porn is not addiction, its just looking at porn
now if your husbans first thought when he gets up in the morning is to boot up his computer and visit a pornsite then we *might* have a problem
now as far as porn popups, its most likely because he downloads movies and bootleg programs and yall have malware and internet hiv on your computer
please remove the idea from your head that men are no longer going to want to see other naked women just because he got married
unfortunately porn is just part of everyday life ever since al gore invented the internets
as soon as most cats got online im guessing porn was some of the very first searches
Pornography; I have no problem with it. My husband watches it, and I watch it with him. Men are far more visual creatures than women are.
Now, WHY do I have no problem with his watching porn? Because he IS an adult. A healthy adult male.
We even discuss sexual topics.
Communication is vital in a relationship. The topic has been brought up....now is a good time to discuss your feelings with him on it.
If your sex life is this good then he is likely just flat out addicted due to years of a constantly watching porn. Huge numbers of young teenage men, and plenty of young teenage women, do get addicted to using porn for self pleasure. The problem today vs decades past is that the stuff is immediately available, everything you can think of is available on-line. It isn't like getting a Playboy magazine that you had to wait for, that wouldn't change till next months issue, etc.. I do think this readily available, free pornography is one cause of how relationships have changed for young people and how young people view sex.
For some guys it is a fill-in for a less than satisfying real life sex life, but for others if stuff at home is good, it could just be that it is something they have done for years, if not decades, and they have likely programmed their brain to desire it constantly, which as noted above has become 1,000x more easier to fulfill such a desire.
Many women are going to have to deal with this fact that many young men they date and possibly end up marrying are watching a lot of porn. Some guys might slow down, but I doubt many will stop something that they likely started doing in their teen years. I would say it is only an issue if it physically affects work (calling in sick to watch, running late due to viewing, etc) and home stuff (fixing things, not doing chores, etc). I know that some women who likely think different about sex get upset because they believe their guy is thinking at other women. I could see how that might cause some people some issues, but the fact is, everyone usually has fantasies about sex. I often tell friends and family I don't see much difference in soft core porn than what I see on network TV. Just because two people having an affair aren't naked on TV doesn't mean the images put into people's brains is somehow causes less of an impact. My wife would call porn trash, but then she watches Lifetime movies where grown men or women are depicted as having illicit affairs with their students, young neighbors, etc.. Is that any better just because nudity isn't shown?
thank you all very much for all the shared thoughts about this. i really appreciate. its hard to carry this alone, not being shared even to my bestfriends, i have this saying that dont bash negative stuff out to others if theres time to fix it. and im sure it isnt late.
excuse me if i used wrong grammar or whatever im trying to tell, english isnt my first language.
all women need to face the raw biological facts: porn serves a purpose for men, it fulfills a biological need AND urge to have sex with as many women as possible, or at least until his testosterone levels falls below normal lab range (300-900 ng/dl) when the desire wanes to "companionship love" level, grampa love
and further, are you aware of the coolidge effect? pretty much says men aren't wired for monogamy.... too bad so sad.
we all know how porn led to the growth of the internet, but really it's been men's carnal desire to fatasize/mate with more hot tail that led the technology to porn, and thereby the internet. soon, we will have kim kardasian clones..., and your local favorite hot weather channel girl, side line interview hottie, sports olympianesss and other models, something with an on/off switch that's dependable, or maybe on lease. and for the ladies, just think of it as the tech doll is covering for you, no more headache excuses, plus she is not real, no true luv
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You may not like what I have to say, but IMHO, many men seek out porn for entertainment because their sex life at home is lacking. How often do you folks have sex. Does he want it more but you decline often? Is your sex life repetitive? Does he try to get you to try new things, and you decline that also? Instead of getting upset about the porn, you might try to find out what he thinks about the quality of your sex life? Maybe its time for some honest conversations with your husband. Many women don't understand that a man's sex drive can be very strong. For some men, its not a matter of being in the mood. Day or night, they're usually in the mood. Their switch is always on. Talk to your husband.
Women are monogamous men are polygamous. Ok, it's a huge generalization - and not entirely true, BUT it's true enough that it's the default position to argue. Most men, and quite a few women aren't programmed to be in a monogamous relationship. Nature's great trick is that there's often a conflict with the need for romantic love, deep relationship affection, and the libido. I'd say to the OP, try to cut your other half some slack - ALL men (who can) watch pornography. The percentage who don't are inconsequential in number.
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