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a married woman should only be concerned if your husband is watching gay porn
Oh, honey... Don't tell me for a second that guys just watch porn to check out the women. I dated a guy for a while who liked his pornography. He even bought some DVD's and we watched them together. One night we were watching this DVD he had picked out while we were at the local Adult Toy Store and I kid you not, the first words out of his mouth when the male actor pulled off his pants in the first scene was "Holy S**T! Look at that monster!"
Men like porn. Simple fact.
My FIL watched porn. RIP My husband and I spent the night together several times at the folks house....I would get up in the middle of the night to visit the bathroom.....FIL had porn going on the tube.
He is/was in his 70's.
Yes, his wife of 50+ years knows. She pays the bills....so she has to know what is on the cable bill channels.
Ugh, OP, this is City Data; most of the people who have responded so far watch porn all the time and many have never been in a relationship. You are looking for answers in the wrong place.
What you need to do is go to a marriage counselor and discuss this with her (see a woman and not a man). I don't watch porn anymore and I'm still pretty young so all this hard wired business to watch porn is a bunch of porn addicts justifying their problem.
Posting your question here about Porn would be the equivalent of a concerned mother asking a drug dealer if drugs are going to harm her child; consider the source. Remember, the internet is full of sickos who prior to the internet would have descended into perversion without trying to justify it to an audience.
I don't have a problem! I can stop whenever I want! I just choose not to!
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Originally Posted by SweetJane1
Fappening site- haven't heard that one before! Thanks for the good laugh! Dated a guy in college (not very long)- we were in his dorm room making out on his bed. I kept catching a whiff of musty odor coming from his pillow. I even said "what's that smell?" at one point and he just answered "I dunno. I don't smell anything." Then I felt something in his pillow and reached in his pillow case and pulled it out. Yeah... his fapping rag was in there.
That's so gross, especially at that age. You would think he would have found a better way to dispose of his spunk by the time he got to college.
Imagine if we substituted viewing porn on a daily basis with something like having several drinks each day and we used the same things to rationalize it as the computer monitor fappers have here.
Last edited by Philosophizer; 04-24-2015 at 07:37 AM..
He is not a porn addict if you still have a good sex life.
Porn addicts prefer porn to actual sex with a person (look it up).
As long as he still desires you, I wouldn't worry. It's normal.
Also, I talked with many guys about porn and they often said that just because they look at a specific theme, doesn't mean they actually would want that in real life. So just because he looks at women with big boobs doesn't mean he would prefer you have big ones. Don't get self esteem issues over that!!!
Have to agree with this.
A porn addiction to a T. That's when he's become so into it, he'd just as soon watch porn and jerk off than be with you. A woman I know had this issue with her boyfriend, who'd watched tons of porn for years before they got together, and it possibly lead to his ED issues later, where he needed pills to be with her, but had no issues watching porn and going solo. Then when he had to try giving up porn, he just played games on his phone, and would get huffy when his girlfriend had to practically beg him for sex. And another, whose husband had that same issue, and he finally told her she'd get sex when he said she'd get it, and to drop the issues. Eventually he told her to just go seek sex elsewhere, and she met another man whom she's with now while waiting for her divorce from him to be final.
And agreed with the bold. Many people have misconceptions about porn, as if it's a black and white issue. Like if you're straight, you can't watch gay porn of the same gender, otherwise, you're either gay or bi. Not true. Some people just get turned on by watching sexual acts in general, but it doesn't have to mean they're attracted to the participants. Activities. Some stuff looks hot in porn and to see others doing, but you, yourself, aren't interested in it. Some of the more naughty things..., again people may get turned on because it's naughty/taboo and it's arousing to watch due to that factor, but again, doesn't mean its something you plan to do. Some things you enjoy in fiction-books, tv, film, etc, but you can separate fiction from reality.
So even if your guy has specific porn stuff he likes, he just likes that as a form of viewing entertainment. Doesn't mean he's unhappy with his sex life. The porn is just something extra/different that he does for just himself now and again. Even with great sex, some want to go solo now and again just to have a chance to be selfish and tend to their own needs now and again. And again, doesn't mean he hates pleasing you, or finds sex to be a chore. But all humans want "ME" time for something sometimes.
Imagine if we substituted viewing porn on a daily basis with something like having several drinks each day and we used the same things to rationalize it as the computer monitor fappers have here.
Well we could instead indulge in this fantasy that we live in this simplistic immature black and white worldview like you and your buddy here instead of accepting the fact that the world is a shade of gray.
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