Is if normal for a husband to give such a hard time about dressing up? (wife, marry)
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In other words, you didn't realize the context of my answer to another poster, not the OP. It was in response to a statement about locales where wearing jeans - no holes - was common. "I guess some areas are more casual than others, because my husband does a couple of funerals per month and a decent number of people are in jeans. Not ratty old Levis, but jeans nonetheless." And someone else - the person to whom I responded - insisted that "Just because people do it, and even if it is the norm in some areas, that doesn't make it right, IMO."
So it sounds as if I have a much better grasp on reading comprehension than you do. In the future, try to understand this concept - not every post in a thread is about the first post in the thread.
That's weak cheese and you know it. We are addressing the issue of the OP, who was pretty explicit about her husband dressing in a shirt with holes in it. You came up with some wooly-headed statement about capricious societal expectations, and I called you on it with a quote from the OP. And, like Timberline, I've traveled a good bit and been with people from all kinds of walks of life. In 99% of the world, save those small self-important circles of people who think that personal comfort is at all times the highest good, dressing like that for a funeral is an absolute sign of respect. That is a consistent cultural norm wherever you go.
A person who cannot be bothered to wear even a decent shirt to a funeral is a slob. He is so wrapped up in himself that he cannot accord the family of the deceased proper respect.
In 99% of the world, save those small self-important circles of people who think that personal comfort is at all times the highest good, dressing like that for a funeral is an absolute sign of respect. That is a consistent cultural norm wherever you go.
A person who cannot be bothered to wear even a decent shirt to a funeral is a slob. He is so wrapped up in himself that he cannot accord the family of the deceased proper respect.
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That's weak cheese and you know it. We are addressing the issue of the OP, who was pretty explicit about her husband dressing in a shirt with holes in it. You came up with some wooly-headed statement about capricious societal expectations, and I called you on it with a quote from the OP. And, like Timberline, I've traveled a good bit and been with people from all kinds of walks of life. In 99% of the world, save those small self-important circles of people who think that personal comfort is at all times the highest good, dressing like that for a funeral is an absolute sign of respect. That is a consistent cultural norm wherever you go.
A person who cannot be bothered to wear even a decent shirt to a funeral is a slob. He is so wrapped up in himself that he cannot accord the family of the deceased proper respect.
Yeah, I don't care if I'm in SF/Chicago, or Madisonville, Kentucky, or middle of no where cornfields and pigs Iowa, that person is a bore, at best, and probably a slob.
Based on this post as well as others regarding your husband, have you considered leaving him? He has been portrayed as an alcoholic who is childish, clueless, and not about to budge for you or anybody else. He makes you cry and even your little dog feels sorry for you. This sounds like a situation that will only become worse for you.
That's weak cheese and you know it. We are addressing the issue of the OP, who was pretty explicit about her husband dressing in a shirt with holes in it. You came up with some wooly-headed statement about capricious societal expectations, and I called you on it with a quote from the OP. And, like Timberline, I've traveled a good bit and been with people from all kinds of walks of life. In 99% of the world, save those small self-important circles of people who think that personal comfort is at all times the highest good, dressing like that for a funeral is an absolute sign of respect. That is a consistent cultural norm wherever you go.
A person who cannot be bothered to wear even a decent shirt to a funeral is a slob. He is so wrapped up in himself that he cannot accord the family of the deceased proper respect.
I would also add that his slovenly appearance like that at a funeral is not only disrespectful to the event and those hosting it, but it is also disrespectful to his wife to appear at such an event in that state of attire. How embarrassing for her to have to go to a wake with someone who cannot find the effort to put on a decent shirt.
If he has to wear anything but jeans or shorts he has a temper tantrum and is in a bad mood for the remainder of the day it night. Like we have to go to a wake and I asked him to just at least wear khaki pants instead of jeans and he is giving me trouble tells me it doesn't matter what he wears. Shouldn't you at least not wear jeans to a wake? I've seen people in suit and ties.
I guess jeans and T shirt is his style, but it does not hurt to dress up at least once in a while. On the real, though, it shouldn't matter all that much what people wear, but then again it does.
are you his mom or his wife...what do you care what HE wears
He will look ridiculous at a wake in jeans, but you will be dressed up...its HIS problem
If his bad fashion is a reflection on you, then its THEIR problem, not yours...
are you his mom or his wife...what do you care what HE wears
He will look ridiculous at a wake in jeans, but you will be dressed up...its HIS problem
If his bad fashion is a reflection on you, then its THEIR problem, not yours...
A lot of wives become their husbands mothers.
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How embarrassing for her to have to go to a wake with someone who cannot find the effort to put on a decent shirt.
