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I met a cute girl through Facebook because we had friends in common. One day I said hi to her and she asked me who I was and I told her my name etc, she gave me her whatsapp and she stopped responding saying that she broke up with her boyfriend a month ago and that she was not in the mood of meeting new people, I told her that I was ok with that and that there was no problem,so I deleted her number and deleted her from Facebook.Two days later she texted me again saying that she saw some of my videos in Facebook where I play the guitar and she said she liked them very much so I proceeded to arrange a date with her on Friday. She told me from the beginning that she is very religious and she studies theology and that she wanted to tell me this at the beginning because many people think she is rare because of his, I told her that for me that is not a problem because I respect people ideologies and that if she is happy studying theology it shouldn´t matter if what people think. I told her that I am a very sensible person (I play the guitar and the piano) and I can sense how people are after 2 minutes of meeting them. I told her that when I saw her Facebook pic I sensed how she was in person and I was right. She asked me what was my perception of her and I told her that she seemed like a good girl that is not a party girl, she seemed spiritual, sensible etc and she told me that I was 100 per cent right haha. She told my that I was surprised that I told her this because most people think she is arrogant without even knowing her and that I was the first person that told her the opposite. She told me that she decided to go out with me because I seemed like a good person and different to other guys she dated before. She broke up with her boyfriend a almost two months ago because he did not respected her religious beliefs, they became a couple after three weeks of dating, her boyfriend drank a lot.
I have seen her 5 times, we already kissed and holded hands. My issue is that yesterday she invited me to a religious meeting from her religious sect, she believes in this corean sect. A man wanted me to convert to this sect and start to attend weekly, of course I did not accepted. At the end of the meeting she told me what did I think about her religion and told her I respected it but I will not change my beliefs and she was ok with that, that she respects my way of thinking. She will go in one week to Corea for about two weeks in a religious trip.
They believe that there is not only a God father but also a God mother and she is a woman that lives in Corea. Honestly it all sounds like a bunch of crap but she believes this
She told me she dumped her last two boyfriends because they did not accepted her beliefs, one was an atheist and laughed about her beliefs, they lasted 5 years and they were even going to marry but at the end she dumped him, she says she wanted to educate her kids with this religion and he did not liked this idea. She lasted 9 months with the last one and he was mad that she could not see him on saturday´s because she attends this religious place.
The point is: She is beautiful, everything I wanted in a girl but this is religious issue is scaring me. Should I just disappear from her life or just go with the flow? :S
Religious beliefs in themselves do not cause a problem. How others react to your beliefs and how you react to others' can cause a problem.
If you look at some of the athiests on this board, they can be downright demeaning. On the other side, some religious people can be difficult to talk to as well.
Religious beliefs in themselves do not cause a problem. How others react to your beliefs and how you react to others' can cause a problem.
If you look at some of the athiests on this board, they can be downright demeaning. On the other side, some religious people can be difficult to talk to as well.
I say don't get mixed up with either group.
Gotta go with this. Some people can have different beliefs, and live happy lives. My friend said her aunt is religious, but her uncle is not, and they've been married for over 30 years. So different beliefs can work. It just depends.
Some people are accepting on both ends. Not for them, but accept that a partner supports it. Then others can not be with someone who is different in that regard.
So, if it's causing you a problem, and you just can't get behind it, maybe it would be best to let things go, especially when it's only been 5 dates, or hang-outs. If her beliefs are already getting to you, best for you both to separate. I would advise doing it respectfully however. Just saying you're crazy about her, but you aren't compatible. When it comes to religion, sex, and possibly even politics, sometimes mixing isn't good.
You sound relatively young, so if you are just talking about casual dating, problems may not surface. However, if you are a devout Catholic and want to be able to take communion and be in good standing with the Church, I assume you know you will need to get married in the Church and agree to do your best to raise the kids Catholic. Since she is already trying to convert you, it's not likely she will go along with this, so if the relationship ever gets serious there will likely be problems. You have to make a decision of how important your faith is to you.
They were absolutely were a problem for me when I was in the dating scene. I didn't/wouldn't date anyone religious or theistic (unless secular Jew, for instance). Just not my thing. On the off chance I met someone that identifies with a form monistic theism, theistic pluralism, or something similar, maybe, but that was a very slim possibility.
I pretty much exclusively dated nontheists/skeptics, Buddhists, Taoists, and some Pagans.
Bottom line is: she is extremely fanatic with that sect, she was born a catholic but then some friend of her introduced her to this sect, she distanced from her family and friends because of this. I say this is a bunch of crap because how can they believe that God is a woman that lives in Corea?. come on, even an idiot knows this cannot be true. This sect just manipulates its followers.
Bottom line is: she is extremely fanatic with that sect, she was born a catholic but then some friend of her introduced her to this sect, she distanced from her family and friends because of this. I say this is a bunch of crap because how can they believe that God is a woman that lives in Corea?. come on, even an idiot knows this cannot be true. This sect just manipulates its followers.
This sounds like a cult--I googled it and there is reference to that but I don't know enough about it to say for sure. You should let this go b/c you'll only get pulled in too or get your heart broke and if you have children she will raise them that way.
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