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He's really cool and, so far, we've been getting along great. We've only been on three dates. But things looked promising. That is, until he made a offhanded comment about his ex.
The first time it happened, we were joking around and I was laughing hysterically about something he'd said, when all of a sudden...
"You look exactly like my ex!"
That was on our first date. I brushed it off and said something along the lines of, "Yeah? She must've looked great."
It didn't really bug me. I just thought it was a weird thing to say, especially since it was our first date. I feel like ex-flames and old lovers are a big no-no on first dates. But I didn't let it become an issue.
Anyways, the other night we hung out.
And he said something along those lines, yet again. This time, I laughed it off and didn't say anything. But it's beginning to bug me. It seems like every time we hang out, he makes a comment about how alike she and I are. He even offered to show me a picture of her. I took it as a joke and declined.
Am I being paranoid? Should I worry about these consistent comments about his ex? Should I say something? Do I tell him I find it weird, or do I ask him if theres' any lingering feelings for the ex, or what?
I do like him, but I'm beginning to get the impression that she might not be totally out of the picture. Perhaps, he still thinks about her? I don't really know what to say. It's awkward for me and big turn off.
Am I being paranoid? Should I worry about these consistent comments about his ex? Should I say something? Do I tell him I find it weird, or do I ask him if theres' any lingering feelings for the ex, or what?
I do like him, but I'm beginning to get the impression that she might not be totally out of the picture. Perhaps, he still thinks about her?
I think you need answers to these questions before you decide.
He simply has a type. Pretty sure that's the reason why he asked you out? You know like how some guys are into big boobs or big butts. The guy has a face type. And it's the face that look like you and the ex. If I were you I would have looked at the pic. Coz if you really look alike then ya he liked a certain kind of face. Ya know what I'm saying?
I think you need answers to these questions before you decide.
It's a really new thing, so I'm not sure if he's just making those comments because there is an uncanny likeliness or if he's simply still thinking about her.
I don't really know how to broach it because it is so new. I don't want to come across as jealous or obsessive.
He simply has a type. Pretty sure that's the reason why he asked you out? You know like how some guys are into big boobs or big butts. The guy has a face type. And it's the face that look like you and the ex. If I were you I would have looked at the pic. Coz if you really look alike then ya he liked a certain kind of face. Ya know what I'm saying?
Yeah, but when he asked it was just weird, you know? I wouldn't show him pictures of my ex lol. I get having a type but it's just a little uncomfortable. Almost feels like he's doing a comparison.
I wouldnt want to be compared to his ex every time I turn around. I dont think hes over her. Things about his ex being brought up, arent appropriate for first dates with someone new. An ex wouldnt even need to be mentioned, and still has her picture? Hes not past her.
I wouldnt want to be compared to his ex every time I turn around. I dont think hes over her. Things about his ex being brought up, arent appropriate for first dates with someone new. An ex wouldnt even need to be mentioned, and still has her picture? Hes not past her.
Yeah. I'm not sure if it was a picture he had saved in his phone, or if he was going to show me her social media account, but either way -- it's weird.
I just don't want to judge him unfairly. But I feel like these are early signs for disaster.
Yeah. I'm not sure if it was a picture he had saved in his phone, or if he was going to show me her social media account, but either way -- it's weird.
I just don't want to judge him unfairly. But I feel like these are early signs for disaster.
I agree that his comments are a bit bothersome, but maybe he's just clueless. It could also be that he's not over her. There's a guy on C-D who mentions his ex a lot and every time he does, I'm thinking "You're talking about her again??" but maybe he's not aware how much he mentions her.
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