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Walking up to a guy and saying "hey, would you like to go get coffee, a bite to eat, a movie..."
Which rarely ever happens but, yeah, there may be some exceptions out there of course. Remember that other thread where female posters shared they rather send indirect messages, give hints and clues, play with their hair, giggle, etc.?
You missed the crucial first steps: asking around about his relationship situation, and gauging his interest in you by observing his verbal and nonverbal clues. Well-honed instincts will tell you whether or not he interested, at which point you make your move.
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Originally Posted by MakeLoveNotWar
Walking up to a guy and saying "hey, would you like to go get coffee, a bite to eat, a movie..."
You.are.too.damn.cute. I just sense it through my computer screen.
No, it's not unusual for the female Giraffe to initiate courtship. Especially when she is in heat.
I understand your argument and I know the topic of females approaching/asking males out first has been a long-standing bone of contention around these here parts. However, while society's views have changed (or progressed) significantly, the damage has already been done. Many of us, male and female alike, have been socialized to believe that once the woman initiates, her value in the eyes of the man immediately lessens. This has been deeply ingrained, and I think if this were not so, more women would make the first move, but a girl's got to maintain some sense of dignity.
ya, the part the frustrates me, bothers me the most is not so much asking out and planning the first few dates, but always having to be the one to approach first and start a conversation first, break the ice first, etc.
You missed the crucial first steps: asking around about his relationship situation, and gauging his interest in you by observing his verbal and nonverbal clues. Well-honed instincts will tell you whether or not he interested, at which point you make your move.
ya, the part the frustrates me, bothers me the most is not so much asking out and planning the first few dates, but always having to be the one to approach first and start a conversation first, break the ice first, etc.
Take a chance............I can be introverted...........I agreed to meet this nice, attractive, shy lady because she admitted she was shy and that took the anxiety off of meeting for a 1st date and that actually became a funny topic of our date.
You need to give him a hint that you see him as BF material. Trust me its a lot easier for why women then it is for shy men.
it gets annoying when women deny what you say
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