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I don't pay any attention to other people's sex lives.
Honestly I don't think it's really wise to talk about it freely. It can cause drama and it's not really something other people need to know. Most folks I know talk about it like they get it every week.
I never really understood really feeling the need to talk about it amongst other people unless they're bored or can't find anything interesting to talk about.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
Most of my friends have been in relationships more than they have been single. And we used to tell each other everything before we got married. There's no way any of my close friends has had sex with 40 men. I wouldn't judge them if they had - but there's just no way.
Most of mine have been too. Several have been married for 10-15 years now (since their early 30s). But 30 or 40 isn't much for many of them. That's only, on average, a 2-3 or so a year since they started having sex (and they had many 2-3 year relationships before marriage).
I'm not saying those numbers are the norm, they're just not uncommon at all.
I don't believe the average person cares how many times single people in their 20s and 30s have sex. I mean do people actually go around thinking about something like that. And I don't believe everybody will be truthful about something like that anyway. Some people for the purpose of their image are going to inflate the numbers.
I think it depends on a bunch of things - and not necessarily whether you are a prude or you are hot. Location, relationships, overall attitude about sex and relationships, social circle, drug/alcohol use, etc.
Agreed here. Some people love sex, but are only interested in doing it within a relationship. As a member here stated. They love sex, but they won't bring out the blindfold on a 1st date with a guy, has to be a guy they have spoken to for a while and been around and gotten to know a bit. Sometimes it can be location. Even if it's just casual sex, some locations aren't the best for young singles.
The women I know where the convo came up, all of them are in their mid-late 20s with only 3 partners at most.
So, depends on the people. If they want sex, they will find someone and somewhere to get it. Even if a bit of a commute is needed.
So, really I would say unless you interview everyone on earth, and assume people aren't increasing or decreasing numbers, then you never really know. And it's not too important anyhow. What's average or not means nothing. it depends on your comfort level. If you only have sex within a committed relationship, go for it, and ignore anyone who'd tell you it's wrong, or stupid. The reverse, if you just want to have casual sex, you have free will to do that as well. And for a relationship, if anyone would have issues with your previous sexual experience, or lack of, should the convo come up, then it means you're both not a match. Next.
If you don't mind, why did you ask about this kind of thing?
Just curiosity. I'm 30 but don't go around chasing women. I have friends in their mid to late 20s that do. I got to thinking I wonder where the average might lie. I have no problem with the concept of it, but I'm more of a relationship kind of guy and I'm moving across the country this summer so there's no point in trying to "look for someone". I was just wondering if I was in the minority as far as not actively going out and "trying to scoop" as my friends call it haha
Just curiosity. I'm 30 but don't go around chasing women. I have friends in their mid to late 20s that do. I got to thinking I wonder where the average might lie. I have no problem with the concept of it, but I'm more of a relationship kind of guy and I'm moving across the country this summer so there's no point in trying to "look for someone". I was just wondering if I was in the minority as far as not actively going out and "trying to scoop" as my friends call it haha
I guess it depends on your social circle. Most of my friends were not really into casual sex. One of my close friends thought she was but she was really bad at it. I have known a few guys over the years that seemed to have lots of one night stands before they got married. It's funny - on here people are always talking about how it's hot/rich guys that get all the babes. The two guys that I'm specifically thinking of weren't that hot and if they were loaded, I didn't know about it! Most of my friends are more relationship minded.
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