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Reason that I am asking this question and hopefully I will get more responses from married men. I want to do a test question scenario. Let's say there is a married couple . The husband is a financial analyst. He and his wife have 2 small children. A 3 year old daughter and a 10 month old son. The husband runs into a very hot and attractive younger woman than his wife. Let's say his wife is average looking and this younger woman he met at work or in a business seminar is topping the scale for beauty. Let's say this woman gets all flirty with him at the business seminar or business luncheon . Is this guy smart enough to tell this attractive woman to leave him alone because he is a dedicated family man or will be dumb enough to go cheat on his wife and possibly sleep with the young woman?
Ladies, I want you input on if you were this guys wife , and remember this just a test not true story. Would you go to marriage counseling or divorce this guy in a heartbeat if you caught him messing around with this hot young woman ? And there are small children involved in this guys marriage
Are men really that faithful in marriage especially with young children
You're asking for generalizations, and infidelity cannot easily be predicted.
Any given person can cheat on a spouse under the right circumstances. There are no guarantees.
Someone that tells you they or their spouse would never cheat is lying to you, themselves or has no imagination.
In answer to your hypothetical situation--he might cheat. He might not. It depends on his overall happiness in his marriage.
Would I go to marriage counseling--yes. That's because for me my marriage vows included "for better, for worse." Recovering from infidelity is not an easy path to take, but it can be done. I suspect that in the long-term divorce would be much more difficult. Again though, I'm thinking about my own spouse and the person he is. This hypothetical person might be a real loser in other ways.
Whoever this "husband" is... seems like a very superficial person who would risk his family over simply someone who is young, hot, attractive... Maybe I'm just being naive but I think the vast majority of married men's infidelity starts from internal factors of the marriage.. not external.
"48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated"
and
"Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife."
At least those are the stats that applied to me....
My wife and I strayed apart for many reasons including stresses, lack of communication, lack of intimacy... we have been together for more than 20 years. The person I developed feelings for was someone who over the course of a long time was someone I confided in my life's problems and joys. That person knows every aspect of myself including that I am married with children. That person probably knows more about my recent inner thoughts than even my wife. I consider the person a close friend and it developed from there. She's attractive (and so is my wife). But it was the emotional aspect that drove us together.... and it was the emotional aspect that caused a whole lot of hurt when I ended the relationship.
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Reason: oops.. c&p a wrong quote from article.
We get a lot of threads here always about the men cheating.
But
If one thing HAS CHANGED in recent decades is that women are found to cheat just as much. The family structure has changed... women are in the workforce ... women are more independent ... women are less dependent on a male for survival .. birth control has given them control over their bodies .. etc..
All of this lessens the risks to a women's life if they choose to cheat... equality... for better or worse.
Most men and women who cheat don't do it because they were overwhelmed by someone's looks.
They may find the new person attractive, but that's not the real reason they are cheating. There is some underlying issue in their primary relationship or themselves.
Some men and some women cheat. It's usually brought on by some kind of stress if they are an average person. ( pregnancy, newborn baby, money, job loss, moving, illness, renovating a house, losing a parent, mid life crisis, past abuse etc....)
You may have some serial cheaters, who just cheat from the get go.
We get a lot of threads here always about the men cheating.
But
If one thing HAS CHANGED in recent decades is that women are found to cheat just as much. The family structure has changed... women are in the workforce ... women are more independent ... women are less dependent on a male for survival .. birth control has given them control over their bodies .. etc..
All of this lessens the risks to a women's life if they choose to cheat... equality... for better or worse.
Some women have cheated since the dawn of the human race. It just was more hidden and less in the open than male cheating in the past.
Reason that I am asking this question and hopefully I will get more responses from married men. I want to do a test question scenario. Let's say there is a married couple . The husband is a financial analyst. He and his wife have 2 small children. A 3 year old daughter and a 10 month old son. The husband runs into a very hot and attractive younger woman than his wife. Let's say his wife is average looking and this younger woman he met at work or in a business seminar is topping the scale for beauty. Let's say this woman gets all flirty with him at the business seminar or business luncheon . Is this guy smart enough to tell this attractive woman to leave him alone because he is a dedicated family man or will be dumb enough to go cheat on his wife and possibly sleep with the young woman?
Ladies, I want you input on if you were this guys wife , and remember this just a test not true story. Would you go to marriage counseling or divorce this guy in a heartbeat if you caught him messing around with this hot young woman ? And there are small children involved in this guys marriage
Are men really that faithful in marriage especially with young children
You realize that you are asking a sexist question, don't you? Because you assume that all men are alike. In the scenario you envision, some men would succumb to temptation while others would not.
Personally, I make a point of telling MrsCPG if I feel someone has been flirting with me. Not because I want to brag, but rather so she knows that I do not have conversations I wouldn't have with her standing next to me.
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