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Before I elaborate, I would like to state that I am not seeking advice as to whether or not I should get in touch with him. This is my choice and I would kindly ask you to respect that.
I met someone in 2013, we dated a bit then (2 weeks) then we stopped communicating. We dated again in early 2014, then stopped communicating.
It's been a year since we have spoken but I've been thinking of him a lot lately (I've dated other men since, I also moved cities so did he ...). I sort of want to get in touch with him through Facebook (since I no longer have his phone number).
How can I contact him "casually" without making it seem as though I am "desperate"? Can anyone provide me with a small sample?
(Please, no comment regarding the fact that I will look "desperate" anyway, it's really not the point of this thread).
Thanks!
Good thing you are not a complete stranger to him so that might make it easier for you to simply send a friendly message "Hey! Long time!..." or something and start off again from there. Casual conversation about what both of you have done lately. Let's see how it goes from there.
Before I elaborate, I would like to state that I am not seeking advice as to whether or not I should get in touch with him. This is my choice and I would kindly ask you to respect that.
I met someone in 2013, we dated a bit then (2 weeks) then we stopped communicating. We dated again in early 2014, then stopped communicating.
It's been a year since we have spoken but I've been thinking of him a lot lately (I've dated other men since, I also moved cities so did he ...). I sort of want to get in touch with him through Facebook (since I no longer have his phone number).
How can I contact him "casually" without making it seem as though I am "desperate"? Can anyone provide me with a small sample?
(Please, no comment regarding the fact that I will look "desperate" anyway, it's really not the point of this thread).
Thanks!
Since you keep pining and going back there might be something to it but, if you contact, know that he's going to know that you're into him. It doesn't matter how or when you contact him. You could contact him and spill your guts or beat around the bush but, he will still know. Some LTRs are like that, breakup then makeup, repeat....
You dated this guy twice, got dumped twice, and now wonder if you won't seem desperate if you contact him again for a third go round? Im drawing a blank on how to do it without sounding desperate.
What if it were you who dated someone briefly twice, and obviously had no connection with him. You never contacted him again. A year later he contacts you again on Facebook. What would he have to say to you to not sound desperate?
hey let it go there was a reason you dated and kept breaking up just let it go and move on to someone else , how do you know he is not involved with someone else ? this may not be what he wants nor you really
Yea I think a simple "hey! How are you"? Should do the trick, that won't look desperate at all, and if he's at all interested in seeing you he'll keep the conversation going.
I ended up not contacting him on that day because :
1) I was scared he'd just delete the message
2) My laptop broke down before I even got the chance to click on "send" (it wasn't functional for about 24 hours after that)
3) When my laptop got fixed, I checked his FB and he had apparently moved cities the day before (doesn't change anything in my case because I left the country 4 months ago)
If these aren't signs I shouldn't reconnect with him ... I don't know what they are!
Lighthearted and glad to talk with him again. If youre worried that someone has personal issues so much as to think youre desperate jusr for saying hello and wanting to catch up with them again, then maybe that person is too immature to date anyway. Keep in mind that he may not be single or childless anymore, so keep it purely friendly with no flirting until you can at least see him again and feel where he is in life and whether hes into you anymore.
I never understood why women go back to the same guy they broke up with over and over. Are you swinging for a third strike or you forgot the reasons you two didnt work out the first and second times?
"Hi there, sorry I missed your birthday last month. How are you?"
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