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We have been together 10 years, married for soon to be 2. My husband works a part time job during the day and also has a web design business. Most of his clients want to talk to him at night, so that takes up most of his nights during the week. Usually, we have dinner together in front of the tv & watch our favorite shows. Chit chat a little, then I go up & take a shower, and he goes into his office to work. Then I come back down & watch my shows (I watch more shows than he does). Sometimes he will make it down to watch more tv by 8 or 9, but lately I'm in bed by then because I get up at 5 to work out.
We do almost everything together on the weekends, so I'm fine with it. We are in our 30's
This is a good question and something that I found challenging after I married ( 7 years ago).
Before I married, I enjoyed a very full social calendar. After I married I gave up a lot of my evening activities in order to spend evenings with my husband. Because, in my mind, one of the pleasures of being married is to enjoy sharing meals/evenings together so I had this romantic notion about how things would be.
Unfortunately, my husband didn't share my fantasy. His work schedule doesn't allow him to always be home for dinner and even when he is, he doesn't always want to eat the same things that I do. I've finally given up on the idea that we will eat meals together. It was hard to let go of that desire but now that I've accepted it, I find it liberating. I prepare meals for myself now, and don't bother considering his likes or dislikes anymore. He can eat with me or fix his own meal, or order out. His choice. It's not my ideal, but I've finally made peace with it.
So, in a nutshell, I'd say that we each do anything we feel like doing in the evening. We're independent. Usually, we talk to each other about our day for 30 - 60 minutes or so. If he is home early enough, we like to walk to the beach to watch the sunset together, which is always nice.
He usually needs to make several business phone calls and I will also call friends/family or amuse myself in some other way. I'm out in the evening once or twice a week, being involved in the community. When I'm home I like to plan and organize myself for the next day. I'm a fanatical list-maker and organizer. I also love to write letters, which I consider a lost art. I might write someone a quick thank you note or "thinking of you" letter.
Later he will unwind by watching a movie and I will join him, or at least be in the same room with him, reading.
We've recently been moving into a new home so our old habits have changed.
I've just started preparing healthier meals at home again and we've been trying to sit down at the table together to eat. In the past, he was on his own schedule and might have snacking all day while I was at work. So when I'd come home famished, I was on my own.
Now, he wants to eat better and will wait till I get home. Once in a while he'll cook.
He likes to bury himself in his desktop computer more than most people do. He's loving, but a bit off in the noggin, and can't take much interaction sometimes. Since the desktop is still at the other house, he's content to be in the same room as me. I'm fairly independent, so it's not as odd as it sounds.
We do enjoy working in the yard together or dining out. Drives in the country and short hikes provide us with quality time. We like to sit on the porch together now that the days are longer and watch the birds while discussing our new neighbors. Since we have new projects to work on, we find plenty to plan and debate.
We're both pretty happy and affectionate at odd moments. So it works.
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