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I only dated my ex-girlfriend for three months during the summer of 2009. She moved to a different state years ago. Her sister recently moved back to the state I live in. Her sister found me on a dating website and we started contacting each other on there, and now we text each other and I even call her sometimes on the phone. Her sister asked me last night if I was intimate with my ex-girlfriend, and I said yes. We both felt guilty about our feelings because I dated her sister years ago. But if I am no longer seeing my ex-girlfriend, and if I only dated her for three months, is it ok for me to date her sister?
I think the sister should ask the ex-girlfriend how she feels about it. If she doesn't care, then you get the green light. And if she does care, at least you know what her issues are about it, and what the potential consequences are.
If I was in your shoes OP, then it would depend on how the ex-GF and I broke up. If we separated amicably and are still on good terms and truly over each other, then maybe it's OK to date the sister (although it's a good idea for the sister to discuss it with the ex). If not on good terms - especially a situation where it's best to completely cut each other out of our lives, then no.
Even though your ex now lives in another state, keep in mind that dating her sister means that there's a good chance that you and your ex will see each other again someday, especially if the sisters are close with each other.
UPDATE: She just wanted us to be friends because my ex-girlfriend doesn't talk to her much, and she is worried it was because of this. Also, she said that our schedules are so different. She might find a second job, and she lives an hour away from me. We still text each other, but there will not be a relationship between us. Honestly, I understand and respect her decision, and I think she did the right thing.
Sisters often have similar qualities and character traits since they have been brought up with the same parents (or probably so). That means that if you broke up with the other one, this one probably has the same issues, but of course as they get older the influences of home life change.
I guess that you first dated the older one and now you fancy the younger one - that often happens but do you need our 'permission' to date her? No, of course not and particularly as they are not that close. Maybe you got the wrong message the first time around and you should have dated the other one? Or.. maybe you just have not got over the first relationship and you see this one as a convenient way to continue it with her sister?
I only dated my ex-girlfriend for three months during the summer of 2009. She moved to a different state years ago. Her sister recently moved back to the state I live in. Her sister found me on a dating website and we started contacting each other on there, and now we text each other and I even call her sometimes on the phone. Her sister asked me last night if I was intimate with my ex-girlfriend, and I said yes. We both felt guilty about our feelings because I dated her sister years ago. But if I am no longer seeing my ex-girlfriend, and if I only dated her for three months, is it ok for me to date her sister?
UPDATE: She just wanted us to be friends because my ex-girlfriend doesn't talk to her much, and she is worried it was because of this. Also, she said that our schedules are so different. She might find a second job, and she lives an hour away from me. We still text each other, but there will not be a relationship between us. Honestly, I understand and respect her decision, and I think she did the right thing.
She might have been trying to avoid a romantic relationship with you so she won't complicate the relationship between her and her sister.
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