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Either through death or breaking up or other circumstances...How did you deal with it? How do you move on and how can you even love another person down the road?
I treat it the same way I do with my depression and accept that the process is similar to grief.
* Try to consciously eat healthy. I tend to forget to eat or simply eat crappy.. which leads to worse.
* Go for walks or low level exercise.
* Allow for extra time for sleep.
* Preoccupy my mind with other things. I read a lot during these times. I normally read non-fiction but during these times I gravitate towards fiction.
* Followed by time periods in which I "allow" myself to "grieve".
* Keep eye's forward on the next day and remind yourself it will all get better.
* I avoid the typical medications that doctors throw at me... Supplements seems have helped take the edge off.
* Avoid alcohol... I am not a heavy drinker BUT when I'm depressed, I have drank too much... and the next day feel worse.
* Lean on close friends and family for support...
I'm going through this now. He ended ltr after I gave him 2nd chance. This sucks! I have no friends or family nearby who I can lean on. I don't drink. He won't answer the phone, return calls nor respond to text msgs. He was contacting me twice a day until about a week ago. I am packing so I can go home. A lot of his stuff is still here which doesn't help. I have no idea what he plans to do about it. And now, I have hurt myself & can't even do any packing which was helping me not think about it. I'm down from 4 to having 2 serious cries a day now. I never want to be in a serious relationship again!
I lost my first husband 8 years ago. How did I deal with it? One damn day at a time. I gave myself two years to grieve and waited until then to start dating. There was no sense in grabbing random guys and taking them on my emotional roller coaster. That would have been detrimental to everyone.
I have been blessed to have found my current husband.
Both are loves of my life. Love is limitless, so you can't use it all up on one person.
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There was no sense in grabbing random guys and taking them on my emotional roller coaster. That would have been detrimental to everyone.
That is where I am headed. That is where my emotions have taken me and I know it's not healthy, but connecting with other men could help. Of course, it took me almost three decades to find the one I had, so it's not like any of these people will even compare.
Either through death or breaking up or other circumstances...How did you deal with it? How do you move on and how can you even love another person down the road?
I became a spiritual mute monk...
I just do the best I can to build my best life by myself.
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I gave myself two years to grieve and waited until then to start dating. There was no sense in grabbing random guys and taking them on my emotional roller coaster. That would have been detrimental to everyone. 
