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Now OP, the question is, what would you do if she insists on B? lol
There is no option B. When she offers B, he counters with C, take or leave it, end of story. If she insists on B, that should be the last date for her. He's the one paying for the date, he's the Decider. It's rude to insist on upgrading to a higher price. Are people really that clueless? Or they just don't care about being rude?
i try to pay whenever i am going on a first date, especially if we are talking about a first meet if i am meeting someone from OLD, 9 times out of 10 the guy insists on paying. but i am more than willing and able to pay for my own. as far as the situation in the OP, i'd say offer up another option if her suggestion is not what you want. there was an offer for a sports bar and she didn't like that, she offered up another suggestion and he didn't like that, offer up another suggestion or call it a day. if i had a guy suggest a sports bar for the first date, i might counter with going to a frilly tea parlor instead. jk
I always offered to pay/insisted upon to paying my own way on first dates (female).
I wouldn't love the suggestion of a sports bar for a first date, but I'd more than likely go along with it. I tend not to shoot down date ideas if somebody invites.
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dinner may be the only choice if both parties are driving quite a distance (25+ miles) to meetup. If you drove 25 miles to see someone would you just have a cup of coffee? And not all sports bars are noisy. Meeting up for a drink is quite common on a first date, I don't really see what is wrong with it.
On the other hand, I don't think doing something fun like a hike or something like that for a first date (assuming met online) is a good idea as it locks you into the date for a long time!
Sports bars are a bad idea (unless the woman is really into sports... and even then it is iffy. But no reason to do a full on dinner. It is different though if you know the person well.
How expensive is this place? Maybe all she wants is a salad or an appetizer. After all, she's a woman and is probably watching her weight.
I agree it's poor form on her part, but why not go through with it now that you're sort of stuck. If it costs less than $100, consider it money well spent. You can cut your losses if she's a user. If it turns out she's lovely, kind and irresistible; you win.
While I don't think the guy has a free pass on not paying just because the girl suggests a pricier restaurant, it is really really tacky for the girl to ask (unless she says something like "hey, why don't we go to Restaurant X instead, my treat").
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