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What and be friendzoned when i want more, sometimes being friends ain't good enough.
Then continue to act like an immature child and you will never have a chance with her romantically.
The way she put it to you there was still a slight possibility but you have tossed that out with the trash.
NEVER take Romance, Religion or Politics into the business you work for, it rarely ends well for either party and one or the other always gets their feelings hurt.
So all you have managed to do is make her lose any slight possibility of her looking at you romantically AND you have lost being a friend.
Congratulations, you did well, 2 birds, one dose of immature behavior.
You're basically saying I think she's worthless. Even if you just say hello, any glint of communication can give you false hope she will change her mind, it won't.
Again, that's YOUR problem, not hers!!
YOU can only control your feelings. If you are going to dabble in the adult world of relationships, you will need to learn that some women will like you, and some won't.
If you absolutely cannot tolerate being around a woman who doesn't have the hots for you without acting like a child, you should reconsider whether you need to be trying in the first place.
Yes, you huffed and puffed and tried to blow my house down. Then you came back and told the OP the exact same thing I told him. "Be cordial." See post # 8.
So I guess my "tactics" weren't TOO repugnant.
Turps, don't try to punish her for hurting your feelings by ignoring her. Burning bridges means you never get anywhere.
If the guy still likes her but she wants friendship, it may be best to just move on. That could satisfy both her and him by not going through a complicated relationship.
If the guy still likes her but she wants friendship, it may be best to just move on. That could satisfy both her and him by not going through a complicated relationship.
I agree!
Move on like an adult co-worker, not a middle-schooler.
The "friendzone" occurs when there actually is no platonic relationship. One person is interested in the other person romantically, only to be thwarted by the uninterested party. The jilted then settles for "friendship".
The friendzone occurs when one person wants "more" but is diverted by the other person into a platonic role.
The OP made it clear that he wanted "more" but did not get the chance to use his cool non-work moves on the co-worker. My whole point was that he could have accepted the fact that she was not into him and returned to his co-worker state. But he let his ego guide him.
NEVER take Romance, Religion or Politics into the business you work for, it rarely ends well for either party and one or the other always gets their feelings hurt.
Definitely agree 1,000%! This is one of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard anywhere.
To give the opposite example from what was presented in the OP, I'm a straight guy and at various times over the years, some female co-workers have either hinted at or made it somewhat obvious that they would be interested in seeing me outside of work. Even though it was tempting at times, I never followed up on this because I knew ahead of time that it would always end badly (see more details below). I also didn't want to ruin my good working relationship with them. So, as it stands, I haven't dated anyone at work, no one's feelings have gotten hurt, and it's all good.
However, in my case it helps that the only types of relationships I can handle these days are one-nighters/casual hook-ups - hopefully with women I won't see again anytime soon. Since this is obviously not something I want to bring up with women I work with - and since I see them every day during the week - this had made the decision to not date them a no-brainer.
Lastly, even if the above weren't the case, the idea of seeing any women I work with outside of work would be a real turn-off, even if I were into them physically. I don't want to be reminded of my job when I leave the office.
Perhaps you're not the first borderline stalkerish personality she has dealt with who takes rejection poorly so she is being creative in her ways of saying no.
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