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So I'm not clingy or possessive. I was watching two of her girls while she was working, she texted me saying she was almost home. I texted her saying the girls kept asking me when she was going to be home. Then nothing. Phone gets shut off and I find out she went to breakfast with two older colleagues both woman. I'm more pissed she couldn't text me and say hey I'm going to breakfast.
She's done this one time before, when for drinks with a friend and didn't tell me anything not even that she was sleeping over at her gfs house.
When confronted I was told that it was annoying that she had to text me to tell me anything. Oh and I didn't text her because I trust her but now it's getting to the point where it's just stupid.
Should I shrug this breakfast thing off? If it keeps happening then say something or should I do something similar so she sees how it feels?
One, as your GF (do you live together?), that's disrespectful and unacceptable in a relationship (to me).
Two, as the person who is watching her kids, for free, this is beyond rude. If you were a paid babysitter for someone this would be unacceptable. Considering you are doing her a huge favor by watching her kids this is horrible. You may have other things you need to do, and even if you don't, still unacceptable.
First, I would tell her to find childcare, as she cannot behave responsibly with you helping her out.
Then sit down and decide that as a BF is this something you can live with.
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Wow, it sounds like she is taking advantage of your good nature and free babysitting. I think you need to discuss this issue with her and tell her how you feel. If she's not willing to discuss it, like an adult, it may be a red flag, and you might want to move on.
Yes we live together, and I have talked about it before and she gets upset and says she will call her dad to watch them. Then I usually give in to avoid conflict. I love the kids we've been together for 2 years but why not send me a text saying your going to breakfast is that to much to ask?
Yes we live together, and I have talked about it before and she gets upset and says she will call her dad to watch them. Then I usually give in to avoid conflict. I love the kids we've been together for 2 years but why not send me a text saying your going to breakfast is that to much to ask?
So you allow her to continue to treat you this way just to avoid conflict. This is purely your issue since you can resolve it but you choose not to.
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Originally Posted by JJ1987
If I say anything I'm the bad guy, I feel like next time she expects me home...I'm not going to come home just to show her how it feels.
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This will do nothing but show her that you are needy and immature.
Talk to her, she is the one who you can sort out this issue with and if you do not talk to her and get it worked out then again it is your issue because you choose not to deal with it with her.
Instead you have chosen to deal with the issue with a bunch of random strangers on a public forum.
Has your problem been solved yet? Have we fixed it for you?
The answer is no and nothing will be accomplished here.
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