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1. Some people don't like coffee. I don't personally put a lot of stock in this, because few cafes ONLY serve coffee.
2. Some people read "coffee date" as impersonal.
3. Some people only want to do dates with alcohol involved. For various reasons.
4. The big focus of a coffee date, assuming it's a first date or early-on meet up, is generally getting to know the person by face-to-face conversation. Some people get bored just talking and want some other activity on a date. The sort of person who really dislikes sitting around talking is not going to be amenable to coffee dates, because that's what they are.
I like coffee, and always liked coffee dates. My husband and I had a coffee date as our first date. He's not super into coffee dates, but went along with it, anyway.
*note that I said "people," not guys.
Last edited by TabulaRasa; 07-05-2015 at 12:30 PM..
I went on a coffee date once, it was my idea because the girl didn't drink at all.
I was so bored and it just felt awkward like everyone in there could hear us talking. It was just weird.
I'm not saying no one should do coffee dates, plenty of people enjoy them.. but it's not my 'cup of tea'.
Personally, if I ended my engagement and I had to date again.. I'd opt for lunches for first dates. Lunch is my favorite... speaking of which I'm going to go get myself a nice lunch and treat myself. Signing out!
I think it's way overdone and it's at the point where everyone stares at you and analyzes you at the coffee shop because you look like you're on a first date. Also as Burglar said they are usually pretty quiet, and not very big, so the whole place can hear you. It is just sort of awkward. I would rather just take a walk at a public park or something or go to a zoo or museum. There is other people around so the woman can feel safe, but they aren't sitting in your lap. You're also more likely to run into random icebreakers when the awkward moments of silence happen or you're thinking of where to take the conversation next. Stuff like that can't really happen at a coffee shop.
I think it's way overdone and it's at the point where everyone stares at you at the coffee shop because you look like you're on a first date. Also as Burglar said they are usually extremely quiet, and not very big, so the whole place can hear you. It is just sort of awkward.
That happened to me recently I could tell ppl were listening in on our date, but it was a nice date so we'll see.
People listen in on obvious first dates in bars and restaurants, too. Been there, done that. It's often quite obvious when it's a first/blind date. Doesn't matter if it's a cafe or not.
People listen in on obvious first dates in bars and restaurants, too. Been there, done that. It's often quite obvious when it's a first/blind date. Doesn't matter if it's a cafe or not.
Yeah I have been on the other side too.
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I could tell ppl were listening in on our date, but it was a nice date so we'll see.
